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His story put me off -- am I just naive?

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Question - (7 November 2013) 6 Answers - (Newest, 9 November 2013)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

So I met this guy and I'm trying to decide if he's dodgy. He said he went on holiday to a 5 star hotel which was practically empty because it was a front for money laundering, so they have fake guests staying in suites for 2000 a night, staying for a month and in this way put cash through the till. Said he could stay there in luxury for practically nothing as he knew the owners. Says they are in many countries if you know what to look for you can spot it a mile off. It made me feel kind of yucky but I didn't know what to say to him. I don't know if I really want to get to know him any more. Am I just being naive? Am I too idealistic?

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A female reader, It'sgoodtotalk United Kingdom +, writes (9 November 2013):

I agree with Aunty Em. But maybe he was nervous and just trying to impress. I would go with my gut feeling. I'm sure most of us, in the past, have not gone with the gut feeling and given the benefit of the doubt, only to find out months / weeks later our gut feeling was correct.

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A female reader, Daisy_Daisy United Kingdom +, writes (8 November 2013):

Daisy_Daisy agony auntNo you're not being too idealistic, whether his story is true or not. It gives me the creeps, too.

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A female reader, AuntyEm United Kingdom +, writes (8 November 2013):

AuntyEm agony auntI agree with Honeypie...trust your gut...he sounds like a bit of a fantasist and clearly you are trying to force yourself to make allowances for him, when really you know he's not for you.

Just says 'thanks for the date but you ain't for me!!'

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A male reader, bronzed adonis United Kingdom +, writes (8 November 2013):

bronzed adonis agony auntMake sure he aint into drug smuggling. There is no such thing as a free meal.

Chances are, he`s a dreamer.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (8 November 2013):

Honeypie agony auntThe owners are friends of his? then yea I would back off....

First off though, I think he is telling you some grand "I'm Mr. Bond" story.

A 5 star hotel is expensive to run in day to day, a few rooms paying 2,000 is not going to keep it afloat. Real-estate for 5 start hotels are EXPENSIVE - it's about location, having good service, good staff and usually a good restaurant as well. So... I don't REALLY believe that these 5 star hotels are empty - the stars are ACHIEVED (in Europe at least) by government ranking, in the US and some other countries by "popular vote by guests" (so to speak). So I think he is full of horse manure.

The fact that he is bragging about how he is friends with people like that (who launders money) whether it's true or not, is VERY VERY off putting.

I think he is trying to make himself sounds and look more interesting, but all he does is make himself out to be iffy at best.

I'd run a mile... the other way.

Listen to your gut when it says he makes you feel yucky... You gut is right.

Sleazeball. *shudder*

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (8 November 2013):

chigirl agony auntI would be uneasy about this too. Im not naive at all, but I think this guy is naive! And full of bs. A serious white collar criminal would never brag about his crimes, at best this guy thinks the association makes him cool. Which just shows you his character-flaw. Or, missing character. Ive been involved with criminals, on various levels. Mostly drug trafficking. They dont brag about it... Its something you do NOT want to spread about. I think this guy is just empty talk, he knows no one, is unsure of himself, and likes to brag and make himself feel more important than he is. Besides, what is he bragging about really? How he can spot hotels who do money laundry? Gee what a skill. Does he actually know anything worth knowing? Most likely not. I say cut him loose, hes not worth any investment. Sounds like a loser.

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