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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Im in a new relationship with someone and Im really confused about what to do. I find myself feeling really weird and jealous when I think about the fact he's had 5 sexual partners before. I really dont want to feel like this, but I don't know how I can stop myself feeling this way.And I've convinced myself that my vagina looks weird so i'm really worried about having sex with him for the first time this weekend. I know that it's all in my mind but I need some advice on how I can stop thinking like this.Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): I suppose it depends on his age. 5 partners isn't excessive these days.
How does your vagina look weird? We're all different! Anyway, unless you've had a mirror down there your view of it will be different to his! I expect my foreskin is a little shorter than the bloke next door, and a little longer than matey up the street. Am I bovvered? Nah, not one bit!
I don't think it's a good idea to plan in advance when you're going to have sex, it should be a spontaneous activity when it feels right, not an 'X' on the calendar!
And make sure he's a 'boy scout' and has come prepared!
Have a good weekend!
Phil
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reader, Asexy  +, writes (4 October 2007):
 (1) All vaginas look different. I'm absolutely positive that yours does NOT look weird. Try to convince yourself that yours looks beautiful; I'm certain that any guy will think so.
(2) If you're not 100% certain about this guy, then DO NOT have sex with him this weekend. You can always do it later, when you're feeling better a bout the relationship. Don't use sex to fix a relationship, it doesn't work, believe me.
(3) What about his past concerns you? Three possible reasons are below:
(a) If he's your age and he's already had that many sexual partners, I'd be concerned that he was going to move on from you as soon as he gets the sex (another reason to wait).
(b) But as for any of his partners coming back into the picture, I wouldn't worry there. He's left them. (c) If it's because you think you aren't experienced enough for him, that's never true. Most guys like to feel like they know more than their girl about sex. Your inexperience is a turn on.
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