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writes:My boyfriend recently took some pictures of my teenage daughter and her friends in a running race. However for the last couple of weeks I have noticed that most evenings he continually goes back to these pictures for hours retouching them in photoshop and then saving them. I find this a bit weird and confronted him and he explained that he is learning all the time about his new hobby and so only wants to improve his technique. I am finding that this creeps me out. I am tempted just to delete the whole lot of them, please help. Is he being weird or am I just being weird. He never flirts or behaves inappropriately around any of them but I don't like him spending so long looking at them.
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reader, naz adder +, writes (30 March 2011):
i think you really need to worry. If if was for photography there other ways of learning than looking at teenage girls.
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reader, Sincerely Yours  +, writes (30 March 2011):
 I have to say that this weirds me out because I have a daughter, but objectively i also have to say that he may be just so proud of that picture because of the love he feels for you and vicariously your daughter, and like he wants the pictures of her to be absolutely perfect for you and her.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (30 March 2011):
What I think is: why, if he's having nasty thoughts about them, does he looks these pictures without hiding what he's doing?
Nevertheless anything is possible and everyone here including you think he's a pervert, already. So you should delete these pictures and leave the guy. As soon as possible.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (30 March 2011):
 I agree with the other aunts. tell him you're fine if he plays with photoshop on nature pictures, or stills of the town, etc. but little girls, gets a little shady. I wouldn't want that kind of person in my house with access to my girl.
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reader, CourtneyAwesome +, writes (30 March 2011):
You're a very smart lady for noticing this right away! Yes this is very strange indeed, and if I were you, I would have a serious talk to him and probably even break up because he might just be a pervert you know? But you're a smart lady and i'm sure you know what to do!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (30 March 2011):
 That sounds bizarre. I am a professional photographer, so I practice techniques on old photos all the time. But not like that, that sounds entirely creepy. In fact when I'm editing old photos, I purposefully pick ones I won't be "creeping" on, like I would never use photos of friends in bikinis or something like that. If he was really practicing techniques, he would be using a range of photos, lots of people just go find some online to work with to practice on. This is definitely weird.
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (30 March 2011):
 Hi, you are right to feel weird about this.
It is inappropriate for your boyfriend to use a teen as a subject for studying photo technique.
If that is the real reason, why does he not take pictures of nature and of you and do that?
Surely to improve a technique he needs to try different topics.
You should delete them all and if he loves you, he will respect your feelings.
Good luck and do not leave him on his own with your daughter.
Sorry to say this but things have started with worse. You are lucky to be given a warning, most mothers do not have a clue!
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reader, Niceguy5283 +, writes (30 March 2011):
Watch out on this one. You wouldn't even ask if you didn't have a vibe about this. He may see them as objects and feels "safe" because he is not touching them. Something is wrong. If this is a hobby, why doesn't he take pics of you?Trust your instincts.Good luck
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reader, sebaslookingforward +, writes (29 March 2011):
This sounds weird. That sounds normal for a teenage guy to "practise his photoshop" abilities with pics of girls, but think for a second: he is not their biological parent, am I right. I don't know if you have any sons, but you would not feel attracted to him. However you might find another 18-19-whatever year old guy that is not related to you to be really hot. Well, chances are he feels good looking at your daughter and/or her friends.Watch him closely when he's around your daughter and I suggest you don't leave her alone with him. And be honest with him about how you feel. He sounds like he's being a little weird
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