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writes:hey all.. i have a bit of i problem i would like to solve. i feel terrible admitting it but i have little to no will power when it comes to dealing with my ex. she has pretty much made my life hell the past year and i don't know how to make this stop! she leaves then comes back. when she leaves i make myself get over her and i even start hating her. after a while i start to forget her and get on with my life but then she somehow always comes back and all the progress i've made gets thrown in the trash. i dont know how to make this stop. she always finds me and starts crying saying how she's missed me and how big of a mistake she's made but when i start getting closer she leaves again. i guess she just likes to be with me when she's lonely or bored but like i said she always just ruins all my progress and makes me feel terrible and i start missing her again. what should i do? she doesn't have a phone or facebook or anything like that. she always just calls from random peoples phones so it not like i can call them or else i think i'll be viewed as a stalker. i just want her to be out of my life for good but she knows where i work and she always finds a way to guilt me into taking her back till she's bored of me again. i can't make this stop. when i finally get the guts to tell her off she's not around and there's no way of reaching her. i cant stand someone i love crying in front of me as im rejecting her. any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know what you mean. Unlike her, i actually care about her feelings. When shes mad at me she can say or do anything and she wont regret it no matter how bad it is but i feel bad just to tell her off. When i try to do this she just cries and tells me all this will change and to have patience with her but when shes done having her fun with me she can just leave me like if shes throwing away a disposable diper. She shows no signs of sadness when she leaves. Yet when she comes back she tells me how wonderful i am and she hopes i will never leave her and her love for me is eternal and all this other bullcrap. I just dont know how someone can do this while i actually care about her and keep giving her chances.
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reader, Niceguy5283 +, writes (30 March 2011):
Good luck with this. I am much older and I can tell you, everyone has someone like this in their past. Mine just blew back out of my life and left me a mess. When she comes back around again, don't get physical with her. That will make it just that much harder. Try to find girls to hang with. Even if you aren't dating them, they can help you deal with this. Guy friends aren't much help with these situations. Don't try to tell her off, it will only make you look like a jerk. She isn't a redhead is she? They seem to have a way of always coming back.
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