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writes:I met my american boyfriend on his holiday while Im working in the UK, Im a filipina. He is visiting his uncle in the nursing home. I'm working and since then we had a long distant love affair. His parents is doubtful of me believing Im after his citizenship. We kept the relationship secret but because he said he once fell in love and his family ruined the relationship and since then he doesnt want his family to interfere with his personal life. Another thing is he never says he loves me but whenever I asked him he would say action speaks louder than voice. Alright then when he came to visit me last month he is more on with his brother who is in the UK working than with me when we havent since each other for long.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (16 June 2007):
 I agree with Jovial: whenever a "brown" has a relationship with someone from a rich country, everyone thinks you're only after his/her money or a visa to go there. There is simply no way to change that; people don't want to believe otherwise. This comes with your loving him.
Now, what worries me is your man's behavior. When you love someone, you are not afraid of people knowing about it. And you don't care what your parents will say. And, if you're away from your love, you want to spend every minute with her. These are the actions that speak louder than words, but he isn't doing any of this.
Of course I cannot know for sure, but maybe he doesn't love you. The other side of the coin, my dear, is that many times people from rich countries think they can buy anyone. They don't think a "brown" can really love them. This happened to me: the girl I loved said she didn't believe my love was real "because every white woman gets this kind of attention". So be careful.
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reader, cuttieicy +, writes (7 June 2007):
 Mam i was also in your shoes. Im a filipina i have a US boyfriend well lets say it if he does love you he will fight for you.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (6 June 2007):
 hi
unfortunately when u are having a relationship with someone from another country that is the first thing that comes from people's mind. Im sure you are aware that some people can go to any extent to get a citizenship. so you dont have to worry about his parents soon they will realize how much you love him for just being him regardless where he come from from they will accept you. but im just a bit worried about your bf behaviour i think its a bit strange dont you think? i mean u guys were supposed to be all over each other but he was all over his brother something is not going right. the fact that you asked him if he loves u i think it was because his actions were not enough right? maybe this guy just took as a holiday fling give that some little thought, because you dont want to end up being an amusement for him whenever he is in uk. also ask yourself with all this uncertainties is this the guy you want to be with? judge for yourself and dont settle for less.
Jovial
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