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*yperbunny
writes:Why is it that I don't hate this man?After sleeping with him after he just split up with his girlfriend.. on a no strings basis i got attached and did and still do really like him.To cut a long story short he got back together with his girlfriend.. he never made any promised with me and it was kinda clear it was just sex but i thought things might progress. I stupidlty got pregnant by him, he knows this.. and im due to have an abortion by him.He was the second person I have ever slept with and he recently told me that he caught clamidea and thought i should know wbaout it..he wasnt rude he just wanted me to know. He must have caught it form his gf.. who cheated on him, that was the reason they split briefly.He has been texting me to be reasured that Im having the abortion..he is basically now just intereste din making sure i have the termination.. which of course iw ill have. I just can;t help having these feelings for him.Do I tell him.. even tho i kno he obviously doesnt feel the same way???? I dodnt understand why he prefers his girlfriend over me?? what is it about her???hurt and confused please give any advice x
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (6 June 2007):
 Hey Sweet, Wow, what a situation!
It's good that you don't hate him. Hate only makes you angry and it just makes you feel worse. In my opinion, I don't think anyone should hate another person because it just leads to other problems, mainly to you so it's really not worth it, and apart from that, he's not worth you gettin emotional about.
You're worth more than this, he's used you! Look in the mirror and say "I'm gonna keep away from him because he used me. I'm gonna pick myself up from here and meet someone who's worth my emotions."
Don't get dragged down by a man who used you and won't have the same feelings for you. Meet a respectful, honest man who'll be there through thick and thin.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (6 June 2007):
 dear hyperbunny
i sympathise with you. i know you know you could have prevented the pregnancy so im not gonna ask you why you allowed yourself to end up in this situation.
anyway frankly speaking forget this guy he is not worth your love or whatever you are feeling, yes you cant hate him because he chose to go back to his gf so get used to the idea and focus on what is best for you right now. have you been tested for this chalmydia? i suggest you get tested and for other STIs as well so that you dont end up with some complications with your abortion process. the truth is he might have contracted this sti anywhere even from u if u didnt use any protection with ur previous partner or other girls he had been sleeping with unfortunately you will never know so instead of pointing fingers look after yourself.
i think he is texting u just to make sure you are going to get rid of that baby because its a hold you have on him so for him to forget about u the baby has to go. so stop this wishful thinking its not gonna help u move on with your life.
Jovial
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