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writes:help i dont know what to do well okay here goes.me and my bf have been going out 4 about half a year now and we love each other to bits. his parents were fine about it till earlier on in may and that made them dislike me. Now they still havent got over it and wouldnt let him see me so instead he sneaks around. Yesterday his mum found out and told him to get rid cos of what happenned in may or elsebut he doesnt want to and he told me that he wont get rid of me and his parents should let what happenned in may dropbut i dont know what to do i told him if it made everything easier maybe he shouldnt go out with me but he said that wont happen, i feel guilty and i dont know what to do please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, chandra Mcmillan +, writes (3 October 2008):
 hi, I dont know what happend in May but what ever it was it sounds like it was something quit bad. His parents are trying to stop their son from having any heartache as every parent wants for their child. They may not like you but if you are 16 or over they can not stop you having a relationship. I think talking is the best option maybe writting to them explaining that you are sorry for what happened in May and that you truly do love their son, If they do not accept this then at least you have tried to explain and make a difference. If you truly love this boy/Man and he believes he loves you just do things slowly. He sounds like he has made his choice of what he wants the question is are you trying to use this to escape the relationship. If you are happy with him and him you then dont sneak around this is worse in the long run, trust me!
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reader, jstar92 +, writes (3 October 2008):
 Don't worry. These are his parents and it's his decision to still want to see you, and seeing as you've been going out with you, it doesn't seem likely that he'll stop seeing you just because his parents don't like him going out with you. There's no need to feel guilty either, you've told him how you felt and he has made the decision to stay with you.
Just remember that it's him that you're trying to please, not his parents, and you both want the same thing.
He will deal with the parents bridge when it comes to it. I do think that if the sneaking around is making you uncomfortable, you should tell your bf to have a mature conversation with his parents about it.
xox
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2008): When parents of a friend, bf whatever dont approve it feels really icky i know parents are parents though and to me it just sounds like he's had a good upbringing with parents who are concerned some are just over the top though and you shouldnt feel guilty i think it's great you've managed to keep an interest in one guy you enjoy the company of you like enough to be going out with this long, when most girls your age have crushes left right and centre lol you seem very mature and modest
What to do- well if you want something you have to roll your sleeves up-hang in there you will need to stick around if youre mates with him for mission they'll see you're a genuine friend, it's christmas soon why dont you send him a big card with a fun message in so that his parents know your still friends it's all about committment perseverance you'll know what to do!! -
also if he sees you're making an effort he will realise how much you appreciate him :D:D
just dw everyone gets this problem parents all have the same intentions at heart, i still get it sometimes im 17 lol!!! no worries :)
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reader, Averageman  +, writes (3 October 2008):
What happened in May?
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reader, LovesJamie +, writes (3 October 2008):
Hiya, first of all what did happen in may? If you dont say then no-one can really help you. Secondly, if they cant let what happened in may go then theres really nothing you can do. You and your boyfriend have moved on and it was yours and your boyfriends problem in the first place. Also you should not feel guilty for your boyfriend sneaking around, it was his choice to do this and he obviously loves you to be doing this. Hope this helps, dont worry x
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