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writes:My boyfriends mom use to like me a lot , until one day she caught us ditching school, and well... Then she started talking shit , what do i do cuz i feel well always felt i can't be in a relationship w/o a mother approving . So what should i do?! Reply to this Question
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reader, Aunt_Rita +, writes (18 July 2010):
First of all let me begin by saying you are a such a beautiful girl and certainly bought up right. You have a positive attitude and that will help you in the long run.
Your boyfriend's family is important if you want to have a future.
Especially his mom!! And so is yours
I would suggest, walking up to his mom one day, get a single rose, a 'forgive me card' if you can afford - and tell her that you made a mistake. This will never happen, that you will make sure that you two do well in school and make her proud.
You can understand that as a mom she was trying to protect his future, right? She is not threaten by you but worried about his future and may not know how to react. She should as an adult discuss this with you two. But hey if she hasn't YOU can begin the path. Good luck.
Make sure your boy friend is not around during the conversation and you do not have to brag about it to your boyfriend later.
If the mother disagrees with you - be patient and tell her softly - it is about your son - who loves both of us. I certainly don't want to hurt him - nor should you. Let make this relationship as beautiful as possible
Prove it to her eventually
It is certainly worth it.
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reader, karen1989  +, writes (18 July 2010):
 Shes just protecting her son,she wants him to do well in school. If she thinks your a bad influence on him then shes not going to like you.
why did you ditch school anyway? Honey it may seem like your boyfriend is the most important thing in your life at the moment. But so are your studies. Believe it or not you can make time for both,see your boyfriend after school.
Focus on your schoolwork when in school. These really are the most important years of your life,the grades you get now determin where the rest of your life is going-these grades determin what career your going to go into in later years. Don't fuck it up!
Good luck :)
Karen.
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reader, johannabanana +, writes (18 July 2010):
 His mother obviously feels that you are a bad influence on him... Talk to her alone without him around for a second and take responsibility/ apologize. Tell her straight up I know you don't like me and I don't want to be in a relationship with someone who's mother doesn't approve of me... Ask: Is there anything I can do to fix this? (Honestly is the best policy with parents.)
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