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writes:Is it just me,or do women act really strange,or slighty out of character,directly after they've had an orgasm?Ive noticed this with my GF.She has a 2 and half year old daughter which is unfortunately not mine.One day i gave her oral sex,which she loves,when we were done she started crying,i then asked her whats wrong,she said I must never leave her and her daughter,because i do so much for them.I told her i will never leave them.The child's father wants nothing to do with them,he believes the child isnt his,but didnt want to do a blood test.Since she wasnt working at the time,I helped her out.Another time we spoke about having kids,she said she didnt want to have another child until we're married, and her parents wouldnt be happy again, and wouldnt be able to afford it,we both agreed.When i saw her that week,i gave her oral sex again,when i was done,she pulled me close and asked me if i wanted to have a child.I said yes,but when we're married,she just looked at me and put her head on my shoulder.I found this odd because she just said we cant have until we married.When i asked her about it,she said she didnt know what she was thinking or why she asked me that.There have been a few more occassions where she has just started crying afterwards. Can somebody tell me why they or she acts that way?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2010): Maaaan! We are so filled with emotions of love. But if you want to calm her down a bit, do what my lover does.... he repeats, "I know. I know. You are so sweet."
He kisses me, a lot.
He has placed a single finger on my lips & held me even closer.
We are just that way. i just realised, When i do it, i want to be babied. She and i are 2 different people but thats my thing. Tell me u cant live without me....or some type of grand statement.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): it felt so good she is crying tears of joy and she knows what your woth so she wants to be sure you are not going to leave her
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2010): After an orgasm a woman feels very emotional. Her hormones are everywhere at that moment in time. Even when an orgasm is finished, it still carries on for a few seconds. Which is why some/most women may say/act differently afterwards. Which is why a lot of women like to cuddle after sex, as their feeling filled with love. Where as it's different for men, women take a lot longer to get over the sex straight away after doing it. Men can just get up and go, women like to cuddle for a while/stay lying down for a little.
I myself, always laugh. I think the reason she cry's is down to her feeling so loved after you do it. She feels special/nice and realises just how much she loves you, that's why she asked you to never leave.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2010): Have you considered a history of abuse? Maybe a feeling of shame or guilt when she gets pleasure from sex.
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reader, SapphireBerry  +, writes (18 July 2010):
 Well this sounds quite odd. She sounds like she has been through a lot of emotional stress. Sometimes women may have a tendency to act weird after sex. It is nothing you have done wrong of course. You sound like you are really helping her out. You need to sit down and discuss where you are going to go with your relationship. But honestly I think she's just having a rough time the best advice is just to be there for her but not too much, she may need a bit of space to figure out what is going on inside her head.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2010): sometimes we laugh, sometimes we cry. Sometimes we feel extremely connected with you. Sometimes we feel vulnerable, emotional and/or overwhelmed by love. And sometimes we just feel WOW. who knows why she feels the way she does...but for her reasoning to leave and emotions to take over for a bit
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2010): It may be because of all the emotion she feels from sharing that intimacy with you. After feeling abandoned by her child's father and him questioning the paternity, she's probably feeling some insecurities and fears. She should probably work though those issues from what she has been through with her child's father. She really needs to have a peace about it so she can be completely secure with you. However, sometimes the tears just come....
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reader, johannabanana  +, writes (18 July 2010):
 She should just feel good... That doesn't seem normal. But if you just said you will never leave her or her kid and you told her that, then why can't you just marry her? I know that may seem like an insane question but it really isn't. Weddings cost money.. and etc. But that isn't true. Getting married for some people is walking to city hall and changing their name. It doesn't have to cost anything unless you make it that way. This woman may cry because you make her feel some good but then she feels anxiety that you will end up leaving her. At the very least why isn't it the time to propose to her?
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