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writes:well i have a question for you all out there...me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 months 2 weeks and 3 days...we are both in love...but now his mom has a problem with us dating...she says that since he's joining the military he shouldn't get serious with anyone...especially not me...i don't what i'm suppose to do in a situation like this...please help me...what would you do? how would you feel?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2007): Uncle Phill is absolutely right. My brother is in the military and the most humble thing for him is the thought of who he is coming home to.
Unless your boyfriends mom is the interfering type then she may just be looking out for you. It is said that those in the military can be somewhat premiscuous, having a different women at every post. Maybe she is not convinced that her son can stay faithful?
At the end of the day it is up to you what you do. If you are in Love then you have everyhting to stay together for. Times will be hard though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2007): I would feel that she's an interfering mother and that she should keep her opinions to herself.
The miltary relies on emotional and moral support from home, someone to write to and dream of and look forward to eventually going home to. Who better to give him this support than a girlfriend? Letters from mothers are not quite the same, mainly because they don't include what we used to call a 'sports page'!
Tell him to ignore his mother, in the nicest possible way, as you don't want to alienate her, but it really is up to him and him alone who he chooses as a girlfriend.
I won't deny that it'll be a lonely road for you both, being separated is not nice for either of you but Oh! The Homecoming! That's worth waiting for and I'll guarantee he'll be looking forward to seeing you far more than he'll be looking forward to seeing his mother!
You carry on supporting him, you'll be doing the nation a big favour by keeping the troops' morale up. It's very easy to stay in touch these days with email and satellite phones etc.
If you should feel that you need to break it off with him at any time, try do it when he gets home if possible, face to face, and not in a letter.
Phil
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reader, Richard_EMids  +, writes (17 October 2007):
 Well - you have a choice and your bf has a choice. His Mum can offer advice. You should consider where this relationship will go for you - and he should condider it for himself. Then decide. Good luck.
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reader, angelblueeyes +, writes (17 October 2007):
 Hi,
My sister has the same problem as yourself, but she is managing to keep the relationship up even when he is away. I think that is up to him to make his own choices but his mum is only looking out for his best interests, You need to talk to your boyfriend and find out what he thinks to the situation before rushing to make decisions if he is happy keeping your relationship going even when he is away then thats his choice, i know that it can cause a few problems with him going away but i think if you are both strong enough and you do love each other it dosen't matter where he is!
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reader, Trax  +, writes (17 October 2007):
 well i understand how you feel... kind of... but how can you be so sure that you are in love so early in a relationship?It is completely up to you whether or not you want to continue seeing him or not, and if he is not willing to put the extra effort into seeing you then he is not worth it.The same thing happened to my girlfriend and me, but everyone has a slightly different situation.
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