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writes:I'm 6 years in a relationship that's not going to the next level. I didn't ever hear a word that he loves me.We're intimate, sometimes, only once a month. I do everything for him. When I tell him I'm done with the relationship he doesn't want to leave me alone.What must I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2007): You do everything for him? That is crazy..what does he do for you? Of course that when you threaten to leave he actually starts trying. He doesn't want to lose you...you do everything for him! You need to find someone else honey, don't let him use you any longer. You need love and affection. We only settle for what we think we deserve. Don't you deserve better? I think so.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (17 October 2007):
 I think you have got to sit your partner down and explain how you are feeling. Relationhips are about putting in 100% on both sides, so untimately when one person is doing everything can cause major feelings of resentment. give him the benefit of the doubt and if things don't change after 3 weeks, then you may want to consider if this is the relationship for you.
Take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2007): I was in the same situation for two years and thankfully I came to my senses and left.
He is not looking for a relationship. He wants a servant who he sleeps with occasionally to satisfy his need. Don't let yourself be used. Get rid of him since you deserve much more.
good luck
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reader, angelblueeyes +, writes (17 October 2007):
 Hi
You should look after yourself if you are unhappy with a relationship that is going nowhere fast then leave it, you sound like you are both on different paths in life he is happy to watch the world go by but you want a little more from him have you sat down and actually talked to him about how you are feeling?
I personally wouldn't stay in a relationship with someone who doesn't tell me they love me or with little or not intimacy, i believe that sex isn't the all in a relationship but it certainly is a big part of one, I hope that helps you and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2007): Read about condependent relationships and emotionally unavailable men.
He is very comfortable in this situation. He has it all but not the pressure of commitment.
There are good books available on Border's or Amazon.com. You should read so you would understand what you are doing wrong and maybe realize he will never change and you deserve better.
Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2007): Read about condependent relationships and emotionally unavailable men. He is very comfortable in this situation. He has it all but not the pressure of commitment. There are good books available on Border's or Amazon.com. You should read so you would understand what you are doing wrong and maybe realize he will never change and you deserve better. Good Luck.
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