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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:This is going to blow your mind....What should a girl do when she has a boyfriend of many many years that still lives at home. His mom doesn't want to be by herself ever since her husband died 30 years ago and she is inviting a "friend" over that is her sons age (who wants to date him again after a one night stand when we were broke up 2 years ago)to try to break us up cause his mother is afraid I am going to take him away from her. His mother refuses to work so he feels guilty leaving cause she would lose "his" house. Her "friend" doesn't work either and collects welfare for 3 daughters and has no reason why she can't work other than being lazy. Being together as long as we have I think that he should tell his mother that the "friend" needs to not be there cause it upsets me and he wants to be with me not her "friend". She should be appreciative for all he has done for her for almost 50 years and has never left to have a family of his own as she did. I only get to see him a few nights a week cause of my job and sometimes that doesn't happen cause his mom starts crying. Even more reason that her "friend" should get to see my boyfriend more than I do. Help!!!!
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (3 June 2007):
I'llpassonthis one great advice. Eve.
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (2 June 2007):
 This man of yours has absolutely no backbone! He is in his 50's now I take it and has been used to having him mom pamper him all his life. If he really wanted to be with you then he would, he could tell his mom that he would still pop round and see her from time to time.
Regarding this "friend", that is entirely up to his mom. At the end of the day it's none of your business who she invites or doesn't invite back to her home. I know this isn't what you want to hear but you've been with him long enough to know whether or not you feel secure enough with him or whether this other woman is a threat to your relationship.
Talk to your partner and suggest getting a place together and see what he says. If he still refuses to move then it might be time to give up the ghost and look for someone who can commit to you more fully.
Eve
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