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writes:Hey everyone,I cannot even think straight right now,my head is spinning..I'm dating my boyfriend for 3 years now,he is a divorcee and has a child..so the child visits the father on weekends but this weekend the mother called my boyfriend and said the kid won't make it,so we decided to spend the weekend together,but after a few hours she said,that the kid could make it after all,by then we already cooked our dinner and we wanted to stay in bed but decided to delay the plan for later!so we had our meal with the kid and I put him to bed and me and my boyfriend got in bed!and he locked the the door but guess what he dint and my the kid walked in on us having sex,we immediately covered ourself with the sheets,the kid just ran out..I'm sooo embarassed I know I do want to talk to the kid,but my boyfriend thinks we should just pretend it never happened!but I think its wrong and we should talk..what should I do?
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (20 March 2013):
How awful for all of you, do be more careful with that lock. This will depend on the age of the kid.
Presumably he is pretty young. If he were a teenager, I’d say he was probably as mortified by the whole thing as you, and would want never to mention the incident again. Spare him the blushes.
However the best thing to do is get his dad to tell him that sometimes adults do things in their own time together and not to worry anymore about it. If a big deal isn’t made of it, the kid will soon get over it. Maybe he will ask questions but just say it’s something he’ll understand as an adult, not to worry and that he is loved, and he and you love each other. That’s what he’ll be wanting to know. The quicker you get over this and the more you normalise it the better.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (20 March 2013):
Ive dated girls before who had kids. It happens. No big deal.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 March 2013):
 KIDS walk in on their parents having sex all the time
how old is this kid?
best thing is for dad to go to him and say "do you want to talk about what you saw last night when you walked into our room?" kid will probably say no....
and that's it...
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