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writes:Dear cupid,My boyfriend broke up with me just because his friends said that i was talking to another guys "online" but i told him i wasn't and all he can say is that I'm lying and and why i gotta lie. i really do like this boy so much! He mean everything to me,this happened before and i fought for him back.He said many stuff before that he's telling me now. All he does is tell me he doesn't want to talk to me and it over and done.I just want to prove to him that i love him and that i do care about him. when were together we have so much fun.He said he loves me.how do i get him to talk to me or get him back.im trying my best
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reader, Dekten  +, writes (11 June 2010):
If he's in your age range, he's still am immature boy. They take much longer to grow up than girls.
He's probably still in the phase where he says one thing but means another.
And you still have to learn that the boys should fight for attention from girls. Not the other way around.
What you *could* do is actually give attention to another boy and see how your guy reacts. If he reacts emotionally (negative or positive, doesn't matter), it means he still cares.
If he says anything about it, you can reply with "Yeah, but YOU said that you didn't like me.... so you were lying???"
Learn to play the game, girl :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionheey guys:) thanks for answering my question it really helped:),
just a update for you guys:
he's always telling me that he doesn't care and all that,he telling me that i'm only going to lie and stuff and he can't trust me.i told him yea i know trust is a big thing but just give me a chance.i live in Hawaii and we were up till like one.he keep hanging up on me and stuff. but then we keep talking and the he hung up again,finally i we got to talk,he was gonna take me back but then told me no? the way he's acting is like he cares but he just keeps telling him self not to, i know he loves me and stuff but it just that he can't trust me.i want to walk away so bad but it really hard,i do agree with you guys,but i really love this boy,and i just have hope that we still can be together.
*but thanks everyone.
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reader, makenzie  +, writes (10 June 2010):
this boy doesnt trust you, and relationships are built on trust. Youve said hes acused you before and youve got him back, but now hes acusing you again and youve lost him again. Its like a visous cycle. You get him back, he doesnt trust you, you loose him again, you get him back, exc... Personaly i think you could be fighting a lost cause. He says he loves you, but he'd rather believe his friends over you. Now what kind of relationship would you have if you ended up together again? There would be constant acusations all the time! Could you cope with that? Could anyone? I think its time to move on. And yes its going to cause you pain, but think how muck happier you'll be when you dont have this constant battle to prove your inocent! You know you havent done anything wrong, so if he wants to believe his friends (who i presume have lied before) over his girlfriend, well than thats his own fault. And it should be him who feels like the bad one, and it should be him apologising, and it should be him trying to get you back! Look you dont need somone like that, nobody does. Its time to stand up and say im inocent, and i know it! I dont need constant acusations! I CAN do SO much better!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (10 June 2010):
Why do you want a man who deserted you back? That's like walking up to the wolf. He didn't even discuss this with you. He just dumped you. You can do so much better than this. Don't try to get him back. He deserted you for his friends. He's not good enough.
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reader, Dekten +, writes (10 June 2010):
Frankly, he sounds like a dork. If he believes his friends over you, then he's not worth fighting for.
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