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writes:I am actually new to the whole relationship and dating game and dont know much on how to act and what exactly to do...i have a boyfriend now since april and took it to a very big level by moving in with him at his parents house...we do everything together and i know everything...i usually check his texts and shit...i know i shouldnt but i do w/o him knowing...lately his ex has been calling numerous of times and when we have arguments and when he is stressed out he calls and texts her his problems.they are meeting up this friday for i dont know wat...but wat was strange is that in one of his messages to her he writes "dont worry, my girl is cool with it with just dont text anything about weed or sex LOL" wtf does that mean??? i am feeling kind of weird because i know the kind of relationship they used to have...they also lived with each other and they were together for a whole whopping 5 yrs!! she was older than him by i think two yrs but in our situation i am 3 yrs younger...i sometimes feel as if he compares me to her and it aggravates me.. sorry so long just have alot to say...can u please help me with this situation and let me know if i shouldnt over react
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reader, rcn +, writes (4 October 2007):
 His behavior is abnormal. Not good at all. So he's meeting his ex on Friday, what ever happened to "we'll all meet together?" I have children, which makes a slight difference. When having to make personal contact with my ex's (they live out of state) If I'm with a girl, I always offer for them to join me. Not because of expecting them to want to see my ex's but there great company for the drive, my contact with my ex doesn't take long, then my girl and I can do something together afterward.
I would personally say this is not going to work out. Now the other problem is him contacting his ex with his problems. I think he just wants to talk to her, and uses that as an excuse. Honestly, if she knew how to solve problems they wouldn't have broken up in the first place.
I would question his actions. Talk to him. If he gives an answer that doesn't seem like it makes any sense, ask him to come up with another answer and why.
I'm sorry you're going through this. Hopefully in the future you won't get tangled up with such a piece of crap.
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reader, hotstuff +, writes (4 October 2007):
 I know it might be hard, but I really think you need to talk to him. tell him how you feel and confess to him about reading his texts! then you can be honest with him and he will be able to feel that he can be honest with you!!
I think he might be cheating on you, but you really need to talk with him!
I don't know if this helps, but TALK TO HIM!!!!!!
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