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writes: HiI have spoken with a guy for about a year now and we have gradually got closer. We have one slight problem though his best friend is a female and I think that she deeply resents me. She has her own relationship and is pregnant and has a six year old son already from a previous relationship. My male friend said that I could come round a couple of a months ago when his female friend was there and have something to eat but when he left to collect me she draw him a dirty look on his way out. I've spoke to this girl before and have said "hi" to her etc and I have done nothing to her but when I told him that she just totally blanked me she said that she wouldn't have done that. He spoke with her later on and she did confirm that she hadn't said "hello" back, her response was that she didn't feel like talking to me that night but one word is not so difficult. My male friend constantly speaks to her every day and he doesn't understand when I start getting upset about this. We went out about three weeks ago and he told her what plans we had she ended up going to the exact places that we had planned on visiting almost as if she was trying to deliberately bump into us. I have told him that I would prefer it if he didn't say what places we would specifically visit as it seems far too obvious to me what she is doing but he doesn't see it and thinks that I am making something out of nothing. I want to make a go of a serious relationship with this guy but his female friend is causing unnecessary problems between us. Please help.I don't know if I should walk away from this or bide my time with him as I would like to make a serious relationship work with him so I basically need some advice so that I can explain what I feel is happening and how to deal with his female friend.
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reader, mystic_helper +, writes (9 April 2006):
You need to ask yourself something. Do you feel threatened because shes female, or because you are insecure? My best friend is a boy and my boyfriend worries that I will leave for him. Your spouse is with you. Not her. Dont worry. If she is so much of a threat to you, then end it. but it is all for the wrong reasons. Shes pregnant and has her own life. Continue being nice to her, let them have their time together and bite your tongue if you dont like it. He will thank you for being so patient and most likely appeal your cause to the best friend. :)
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