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writes:My husband of one year (although we have known each other for nearly three years) is becoming more and more insulting towards me. Prior to our marriage he was fantastic for 18 months, full of fun, loving caring and gentle. The day we got married he threw a temper tantrum because he had a tiny mark on the tie he was wearing. Ever since then, he is argumentative, extremely rude to me, in fact on our first anniversary he call me a see you next tuesday, forgot an anniversary card. He then sent me a huge flower arrangment (which I guess was his way of saying sorry). Today he called me an animal for not wanting to watch a dvd which I very nicely said that I wasnt interested in. Over the last year, we have travelled abroad and he has caused arguments and plenty of tears. I love him but if he carries on this way the love will disappear. He says that if I try to divorce him (believe me its come up) he will have the right to half our home (which is in my maiden name and my name only. He came to live with me. I really dont know what to do - please advise.Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advice one and all - I will talk to him about his name calling and behaviour and suggest that it might be an idea to seek professional advice. If he agrees on doing something then in fairness I have to allow two to three months for him to show signs of 'getting better'. If this fails, I will go see a lawyer and find out what my rights are in this case.Thanks again : )
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (25 March 2008):
 Hi,
It sounds like as soon as he got the wedding ring on he felt he didnt have to put the act on anymore. The act he needed to put on to allow you to let him live in your house. I assume you are the one with money in the relationship.
Unfortunately you failed to spot the signs that he was not who he really is. Things are not going to get better, but be safe in the knowledge that his threats about splitting up your assests are only that threats. Go see a lawyer just to confirm this.
but as for your relationship, unless he is just going through a bad patch ( for a year!! ) then I fear you have been suckered in by a rotten egg.
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reader, Gena Bullock  +, writes (25 March 2008):
 Another mess in the middle ages......you'd think we'd learn.
Look, either suggest marriage counseling or tell Mr. Wrong to take a hike. He has NO RIGHTS to your house at all--Canada or USA. Call him on it the next time divorce is mentioned. He'll likely just want his freedom as maybe he feels 'chained' since the wedding vows.
Was he married before--either of you? Past history has a way of resurfacing. Watch your back and watch the checkbook. Gena
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reader, Bushrod +, writes (25 March 2008):
I agree. I believe that you should live with someone before marriage. So if you did that then his "moodiness" should have come out before this. Do what makes you happy. If you want to try and work it out talk to him and tell him what is making you unhappy and if he is still a dick then you know he's a a-hole and you need to divorce him. As for the house, I don't think you have anything to worry about if it's all in your name and not in both of yours.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (25 March 2008):
 Hi
You will need to go to a solicitor on this one. It all depends if his name is on any utility bills, how much he has contributed towards mortgage etc etc, oh bum, ive just realised you're in Canada. I'm in the Uk. You will definately need to see a brief.
As for the way he treats you, what an arrogant nasty piece of work!
Good luck.
C xxxxxx
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (25 March 2008):
 Show him the door!!!!!!!
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