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*ioletVelvet
writes:Well my boyfriend of two years who I'm currently pregnant by, used to cheat on me . I had got past it and forgave him , he promised he wouldn't do it again and he just wanted to be with me and help with our baby . I believed it , well this morning I was using his phone and I had seen in his call log that a girl he previously cheated with kept calling but you could see that he didnt answer . I went off on him and told him I was done because he was still messing with her , I wasn't thinking . Come to find out , he didnt lie , he wasnt talking to her at all and he wasnt answering her calls because he didnt want to . He wasn't doing anything with her , he was serious about being real with me . instead of asking and trusting him , i didnt . I said sorry but he said it doesnt matter because he doesnt want to be with me anymore . Was wrong for not trusting him , so now what do i do ? Reply to this Question
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (15 December 2012):
IF he was that keen to make a fresh start he’d have deleted her number from his phone and if necessary got a new phone number altogether. You can hardly be blamed for not trusting him, trust is something that’s got to be earned. He’d cheated on you in the past, why on earth wouldn’t you think he was up to his old tricks again? Especially when you are pregnant, and probably feeling very vulnerable right now. I think you’re not seeing things clearly: you said that he’d done nothing wrong because he was serious about being with you, then you go on to state that he’d told you he doesn’t want to be with you anymore. That’s not what some-one who’s serious about you would say. Unfortunately he doesn’t feel the same way for you as you seemingly do for him. This is not some-one who’s going to offer you love and commitment and he doesn’t want to be with you. That’s not because you confronted him this morning, your relationship was beyond saving the moment he decided he didn’t want to be with you anymore. Don’t blame yourself or think that you’ve done anything wrong. When your baby is born you will need to work out access with him, but you need to accept that as far as the relationship goes, it’s over. Concentrate on finding support from the people around you and separate yourself from him. With a baby on the way, you don’t need the stress and heartache which is all this man has to offer.
I wish you all the very best.
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