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writes:Why does my new boyfriend talk big but not act on it? I've been seeing this guy a few months. He lately has been descriptive of what he wants to do to me in bed. He says things like "I wanna Butt F* u" or "are you ready to get on all fours and purr like a cat tonight?" or "you look so sexy tonight I wanna blaha blah bla" . HOWEVER half the time he just gets high and can't get it up or he just gets no top of me and is doesn't do much of anything! Is he just acting like he is into me but he's not really? Why the big talk and no action? Reply to this Question
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reader, bOROi  +, writes (21 April 2010):
Thus the saying "empty barrel makes the most noise"
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reader, Starmonster888 +, writes (19 April 2010):
 "Get on all fours and purr like cat", I might use that.
I do concur with most of what's been said, it's difficult for some people, girls and guys alike, to translate awesome verbal intentions into reality. It could be because porn makes it look easy or because they really believe that what they say really is what they do...or they're just high. Next time he tells you he'll "Butt F* u"(again, I might actually use these lines), give him the opportunity...challenge his masculinity.
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reader, cnith +, writes (19 April 2010):
 Maybe he just likes the idea but not the actuality. Sometimes fantasy is waaaaay more erotic than reality.
Mind you, this has NOTHING to do with you. Don't take it that way. But me, for example, I can say I want X Y Z done so bf does just that and suddenly I realise it went waaaaay better in my head. Not HIS fault. Not MY fault. It just is that way, so we move on.
But I will say, him getting high is NOT going to make things better. Chances are he's falling asleep by the time he's "on" you. Maybe you should find a guy who's sober? That might help... just sayin...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): Maybe he just not that good so he talk bout it a lot just so he can think in his mind that he is good maybe you should tell him how you want it
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2010): Or maybe he should stop getting high...
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reader, toniaa +, writes (19 April 2010):
 hi
men are like this they tell you what they would like and are gonna do to you but then they never do it. i would take matters into your own hands and take charge do things to him that maybe he wouldnt expect from you and then might say oooh she does ike trying new things he maybe thinks you wouldnt like him to do this stuff to you. they key to this is talk about things are you will never get anywhere let me no how things go for you
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (19 April 2010):
Men are great at talk and no action. Anyone can say anything, but they might suddenly be very shy. Try taking the initiative and ordering around a bit. See what he does then. Perhaps he's just worried you won't like it, or he's far more shy than he likes to say.
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