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writes:I met a man on a dating site and we've been talking and seeing each other for about a month now. He told me that he cancelled his membership but I've been told by others that his profile is still up and that he still signs on. He tells me that he's not been talking to anyone else and that he's not interested in anyone else, that he really likes me. Should I bring this up or just let it go, since it's only been a month? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 June 2012):
 Are you two exclusive?
Since you two have only dated a month I would chill JUST a little. IF he is not seeing anyone else what is the problem?
I agree with AuntieEm - look at how the real relationship is going.
I don't think after a month EITHER of you HAVE to delete your profile. I think once the two of you have decided that you want to be exclusive, then you can cancel/delete the profiles. But that might just be me.
If I were to put a time line on this I would say 3-6 months to figure out if you are a good match or not. So if it was me I would delete it once I was exclusive, not til then. So I don't see it as a red flag that it is still there. Yet.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (25 June 2012):
 Even when you cancel a membership most websites allow the person to log in until the next payment is due.
It's just been a month, most people keep their options open until they are really sure they want to keep seeing someone. I think it would be a bad move to start insisting he proves he's left the site...Pay more attention to how the actual 'relationship' is going rather than what he's doing online. Any union can fail at any time so if things appear to be going well just enjoy the good times and see if it goes further.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2012): Has he asked you to be his girlfriend? If you are not in a committed relationship, each of you can see who you want. It's a definite red flag how he's misleading you though so why push forward when there are these red flags? He lies about other women, keeps his options open, but tells you differently. I'd move on because that won't go away.
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