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writes:Hi. just needing a little bit of advice. I've been getting close to this guy who is two years younger than me. We get on brilliantly and we've both told each other we like each other loads etc. we've had sex a few times. which i am fine with. my main concern is that he is still in love with his ex. she moved to the other side of the world 2 months ago. he's told me he wants us to go into a relationship but he doesn't want to hurt me because he still loves her. i act like a bitch to him sometimes and i don't know if this is partly to do with the whole loving the ex? am i wasting my time with him? thanx =) x
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reader, Miss sunshine  +, writes (23 May 2008):
 well if you are falling for him or want to have a serious relationship with him yes you are wasting your time. because even if the ex is away you can't be with a guy that is in love with another person. imagine the two of you and everytime the phone rings you will think "is the ex again? and he still loves her! etc etc etc" this will harm you and it is true that you'll end up hurt. but if you want just sex with him go on. but until you are sure he is over his ex you have to be careful not to fall for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): Run like hell if there is any possibility that he still carries a torch for her. No matter where she is, he will still get to her. Give up on this one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): If they have split up and she is far away then i cannot see why your relationship cannot flourish. Just stop bitching at him, and be yourself and in time i bet you two have a rock solid relationship. But for now be patient, it is only 2 months, but in time he will forget about her and all of his attention will be on you.
take care
xx
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (21 May 2008):
 Hi
I think Lexilou got it spot on really. Well said.
C xxxxx
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reader, lexilou +, writes (21 May 2008):
 2 months is quite soon but we often feel we are still in love with our ex's for along time especially when we didnt want to break up. This sometimes doesnt go away until we fall in love again with someone else. It might be you he falls in love with. Take it slowly and see what develops and just dont mention her again. Good luck x
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