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*xkissssxx
writes:i have been with my boyfriend for nerly 3 years now and i hardly ever come during penatrive sex but do all the time on my clit hes now started saying ooohhh you mite be a lesbian i now am reading into it but dont no what to think i am open minded plzzz help
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reader, xxkissssxx +, writes (1 December 2008):
xxkissssxx is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you for you advice it raly helped as silly as it was :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2008): my ex said exactley the same thing to me. but at the end of the day you have to be pretty close to orgasm BEFORE penatrive sex to actually have one during, try stimulating ur clit whilst hes inside of you. it will turn him on even more.
if hes saying things like this hes probably feeling really insecure about himself and how good he is in bed, just try and explain nicely that women work diferently to men.
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reader, xxkissssxx +, writes (13 November 2008):
xxkissssxx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah, I've tried all different positions and I thought he was joking then I looked at him and went haha you think I am a lesbian really??? He said well yeah you could be, you don't like penetrative sex that much, I know he has not got an awful lot of confidence but thought we were fine with each other.THANKS FOR ALL THE ADVIC E:) XX
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (12 November 2008):
 I think your fella is A) dense and B) Not very educated about women's orgasms. Most women orgasm through manual or oral stimulation - not just the lesbians, ALL of them. Maybe he assumes that if you're an OOO (Oral Orgasm Only) kind of lady, that naturally, you're a lesbian. He's an idiot. Penetrative sex just doesn't do it for a lot of ladies. I think your boyfriend just doesn't know any better. Maybe he's been with girls who fake it during sex and he can't handle your honesty that you're not having an orgasm.
Bottom line - he's a dink.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): He's immature and by the way lesbians have wonderful sex so think he's pretty out of touch there. Be careful his sexual comments don't become a habit or any more derogatory to you as this is abusive and at that point (if not already) you need to leave the relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): He's probably worried about his male ego in case he's doing something wrong. As long as you are interested in him and get excited, you like men.
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reader, InterCntlCHmp  +, writes (12 November 2008):
Next time you are giving him a blow job; strick your finger in his ass. He will love it and cum harder than he has ever before.
When he's done suggest that he might be gay and see how he feels about that HA!
Hun, if he's been your BF for three years and he's serious about this accusation you should really re-consider you're partner.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (12 November 2008):
 And you might add that if this is really the case, then two-thirds of women are lesbian. Wonder why so many marry men. Tell him he's a silly boy. Nicely, of course.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (12 November 2008):
He's either being silly, teasing you too much or he's bothered by this and is trying to find something to blame it on. Just tell him that two-thirds of women rarely or never experience an orgasm from penetrative sex alone. The clitoris is almost always involved in some way. The clitoris has the most nerve endings and provides a great deal of women's sexual stimulation. Just because you rarely come during penetrative sex has nothing to do with your orientation.
Flip the question on its side and ask this of him, just because he comes only when his penis is stimulated, does that make him gay? No, of course not. DOH! Don't let him bother you.
And stay open-minded, by the way, we need more people like that in this often intolerant world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): The truth is not many women can cum solely on penetrative sex. Each women are different and has different sensitivity. Perhaps you should change your sexual position or initiate a longer foreplay. You can try to masturbate to learn more about what turns you on. Get him to stimulate your clit and penetrate you simultaneously. For example, when he's pounding you, he can use his thumb to rub your clit or he can penetrate you when you feel like cumming after he stimulate your clit or he can penetrate you then rub your clit, alternating between the two. Maybe you can joke back at him at say that if you become a lesbian, its because he sucks in bed. That should shut him up once and for all.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (12 November 2008):
 I think he is winding you up or feeling bad that he cant make you come. Dont read to much into it lots of girls dont come during sex and im on of them but does not make me a lesbian my boyfriend certainly does not think that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): It sounds like he's just teasing you or winding you up, I don't think he's being serious. Some heterosexual women never cum - it just doesn't happen for them! Not every girl knows how to squirt. I think he was just joking. As long as you keep showing him affection then he shouldn't have any reason to doubt your sexuality.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): i doubt your a lesbian i'm open minded but it's harder to cum during penetrative sex anyway. have you tried being on top? most women have never even had an orgasm they just lie couldn't you try rubbing your clit while he penetrates you from behind or something. your only a lesbian if you love a girl and hate the idea of dick
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