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male
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hi. I'll be brutally honest with you. I'm thinking about having an affair. I know I shouldn't and I guess I could put the brakes on whilst I still have the composure. Here's the story. I'm not married, have two children but my partner in recent years has become an alcoholic and abusive with it. As far as I am concerned I am pulling my weight but she does not see it that way. She works part time and looks after the children part time. I work full time. Inevitably therefore she spends more time looking after our young children. I literally cannot be in two places at the same time so me not helping out on Thursdays and Fridays when I am at work seems to be a pretty silly argument. Anyway, I developed feelings towards another woman at work during the last three years and eventually acted upon them. These feelings were not reciprocated. I didn't realise she was already having an affair! However, by having these feelings I felt that I was already being unfaithfull i.e. that I had already started down the slippery slope...In the past couple of months I've started to take interest in another - also attractive - woman at work. We are constantly e-mailing and instant messaging each other. I have completely given up on the other woman now. This new woman knows all about me and I know a great deal about her. She claims to fancy another guy in my department but then rules him out in the same breath. She blushes wherenever I talk to her in person and she has openly admitted that she would rather keep the matter undercover in case people start to talk. However, she continues to e-mail and instant message me and we are a whisker away from showing our cards to each other. My question is, why would a woman spend so much time in computer dialogue with me but not want to be seen with me talking at work face to face. Do you think she fancies a ding-dong? She knows all about my failed approach on the other woman and my alcoholic partner back home. I also know she is single at the moment and has been hurt in the past - so perhaps she thinks this is payback time. I'm leaving work soon but am so tempted to ask her out for a drink.....she's really cute and we really have great rapport. Surely she must know that based on my recent form I am likely to ask her out if we continue with this friendly interaction....and she is all too eager to continue interacting!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2009): do you think having an affair will solve all your problems with your alcoholic partner then sadly you don't know life. it will just complicate it, not to mention mess with your kids. why not just end it with the alcoholic partner.
seems like this work person doesn't want to be caught dead with you. i wonder why? perhaps you are not worth it?
i don't think your partner is as bad as you make her out to be. it's just you using her as an excuse to justify your affair.
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reader, forbiddenlove1996  +, writes (10 May 2009):
 i think you should leave your alchoholic girl friend before you have an affair its only fair, i mean not just for her but your children also you dont want your children to have an image as their father as a cheater.
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