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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:so im a pretty young woman with a boyfriend of almost a year now. he is funny and sweet but when we are together its all about sexual things. we don't get to see one another very often (long distance relationship) so i understand that he may want me that way but I don't want to do anything of that nature with him i don't feel like it.I really don't even think about doing those sorts of things with him. the thought is almost repulsive! and yet i can think of guys that way. we have not had sex I was not going to but i can tell thats some thing he wants and its all most seems like he would do anything to get it. I could really see him raping me if i didn't put up a convincing fight. its like i have to get mad at him to stop him from doing anything to me. if i'm not mad o must want it. to me love and sex are two different things. i love him but the more he forces sexual things on me the more i just want out of our relationship. Reply to this Question
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reader, PoppyMae +, writes (22 February 2011):
I can understand that maybe because he doesn't see you that often that he would want some sort of sexual activity when you are together, but to push himself on you like that is wrong.
You need to set boundaries with him and see if he responds to them, if not you may need to find someone else that will respect you and not pressure you into doing anything you don't want to do.
There is obviously something good between you two that it has lasted almost a year at mostly long distance so I think that you can turn this around.
I think that you need to make him aware of how you feel and hopefully he will try to change for you :)
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