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writes:I'm a virgin, and my boyfriend is coming back from college, and I haven't seen him in 3 months. I've never done many sexual things. He's seen me fully naked, but I'm kinda scared. He asked me if we could go ahead and have sex. He has way more experience than I do, and he's been really understanding. He understands that it usually hurts the first time for girls... but I have absolutely no idea what I'm doing. I've never had an orgasm, and he says I'll like it... but what do they feel like? I'm really confused, and wondering if anyone has any advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008): An orgasm pretty much involves your cervix opening wide and shortening as your uterus drops. So your stomach will tighten a bunch and you may feel odd pressure or feel like you have to pee. It's all normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2007): Okay. First off, don't do anything that you don't want to do. Be true to yourself. If he is as understanding as you say he is then he will wait for you. If he keeps pressuring you, then leave him.As for orgasms, it's hard to describe what an orgasm feels like. There are different types of orgasms. G-spot and clit, for instance. An orgasm feels good physically, and when you are about to have one your heart is beating fast.
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reader, Crisy  +, writes (12 December 2007):
 dont plan it youll know when your ready because youll feel flimsy and you wont want to stop, if you plan it then youll be nervous and itll go wrong
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (12 December 2007):
Well for the practical advise leanne.od has summed it up but on the psychological part,i wana dwell.I really understand that it feels good to be in love and romance with our loved ones but you really need to take things slowly and not be pressured into having sex.Has anyone told you that being a virgin sucks or means you are a nerd? What would you lose if you waited a few more years before losing your virginity.Don't do things based on your emotions.Think logically.
All the best.
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (12 December 2007):
 I agree with leanne.od so I won't go over what she said.If he's truly as understanding as you say and he really does care for you then I'm sure he'll put you at ease and make you feel comfortable.I remember my first time and I was a VIRGIN and my gf was the more experienced. I must've lasted about 10 seconds! At least he's more experienced so he knows what he's doing.Good luck :)
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (12 December 2007):
 You need to be 100% positive that you are okay with having full intercourse, and not just doing it because he wants it.
not every girls first time hurts, mine never, it all depends on the particular girl, everyone's pain level is different. you will learn as you go on about the "right" things to do, there isn't any right or wrong way, you just go with what is best for you, and he'll direct you and let you know what works, for the first few times, you'll just follow his rhythem until your confident enough to lead. an orgasm is undescribable and until you have one you won't understad what one feels like. it's the realsie of pent up emoitions all at once, and has the same feel good factors that chocolate has, just more fun in reaching really.
don't be nervous, you need to relax so your cirvix isn't tensed, make sure you have plenty of foreplay and you are well lubricated otherwise it will hurt for a million other reasons.
est of luck.
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reader, novicenluv +, writes (12 December 2007):
Be careful, you're a minor and you both could get into a world of trouble. I know sex is great, especially with someone you love but always be mindful of the consequences. Try not to become one more statistic; if he loves you the way you say he does then he won't have a problem if you feel you're not ready. If he threatens to leave you over this then maybe he isn't worth your time.
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