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writes:So I started talking to this guy a few months ago. I never thought he could like me because i just feel he's out of my league, but he's shy and he's hot but doesn't know it if you know what i mean. Our conversations have included:-Asking him "what if i liked you?"Then he said "I would be flattered."Then i told him how i felt about him; That i liked him and would love to get to know him.So then he said "Hmmmm"And i asked, "What?"And he's like, "Agh, nevermind. I'll tell you another time."Then another conversation we had recently included:I was talking about how my favorite hair color on a guy is black and i've never dated anyone with it.Then he's like, "I'll remember that. Too bad my hair's dark brown.Then i said "Whadaya mean?"And he's like "Oooh, idk"What i'm trying to ask is, what does all this mean?I mean he isnt the type to play and he's very shy and a few days ago he gave me hugs and wasnt shy around me. But then again no one was around.I don't know what to do, how to feel, or if i should act on this!!Help!!!!
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reader, lawyerbait +, writes (28 December 2010):
 There's no such thing as a League and being out of someone's league, but I know the feeling you're describing. That sounds like you have a self-confidence issue regarding your looks. It's probably normal to feel that way but since he's only willing to be physically close to you when nobody else is around, that's a sign that he's a jerk and he can't be trusted to show his feelings openly. Ignore him and move on. You need to find someone who isn't afraid to show that they like you in public.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (19 December 2010):
 It strikes me this man is being pretty slippery (elusive) when you told him how you felt about him, and noncommittal in subsequent conversations.
He might be shy, BUT if he really wanted to get to know you better, don't you think he would have asked you questions about yourself, invited you to have coffee or even lunch with him?? Even if, being shy, he had to sort of stammer it out?
I think you should try to have a normal conversation with him next time you see him and see whether he is willing to join in. You've given enough hints, so time to not do that any more. You can either as I said, try to have normal chats for a while and see what transpires, or give it up as a bad job........just don't pressure him (for all we know he may have felt pressured).
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