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writes: this isn't about a romantic relationship.this is about my best friend who just doesn't speak to me anymore and i have no idea why.i want her backexactly a year ago i made a postsecret with a photo of me and my two best friends on. it read : i can't wait for you to leave so i can have her all to myself!!"well, it's been a year since she left and that postcard is so ironic i cant even believe it.i wish you had never left, because i don't have her all to myself at all, we're not even friends any more and i have no idea why. i miss you you know, your new friends are all exactly the same and i'm afraid you're turning into one of them.i miss the girl who used to be known for wearing the ugliest clothes she could findi miss the girl who never wore make up i miss the girl who would pull the most hideous faces for photos and get away with iti miss the girl who would sleep over at me and wake up at seven a.m. no matter how late we'd gone to bedi miss sending saturday night live quotes to eachotheri miss the girl who never did a thing to her hair and it was so knotty she used to say it was her "dreadlock"i miss that girl because she was the most beautiful girl i knewand nowand now you know what you're just like themyou are just like themand i'm tired of my mom asking why you never come over any more because i don't know what the answer isi still appreciate the odd message on my phone, but these are becoming so few and far betweenand i'm so lonely you knowim so lonely without youplease come to the restaurant and i'll slip notes into your salad againand i'll send Stu to your table and make him chat you up and i'll put that terrible song on the radio and i'll make you look absolutely insane because you'll be giggling yourself to the point of tears with no one around youi love you, and it's still your photo up next to my bed
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reader, Midge  +, writes (2 September 2008):
 Well I dont quite know the full extent of the meaning of the note that you had written, but some of it can be taken as very nasty. I think I know what you were getting at, but think you kind went about it the wrong way.
If you are looking to get talking to your friend again, you need to find a way of reaching out with an olive branch so that they get the idea that you want them as a friend.
I think you telling them that "you are just like them".. well that wasnt a bright thing to say because if you want to push them away, well those are the words to do it!
Basically you have just said that they are as snobby and snotty as the people that they are hanging with, and if you are trying to mend bridges, thats on the "what not to say list".
Perhaps you should give them a call and just say something like, "I havent spoken to you in ages, I'm going to a movie on Friday, fancy coming with?" That way you will know if that person is interested in communicating with you. If they are, then you stand a fair chance of finding out what went wrong and try fix it.
I hope this helps!
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