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*ugsy007
writes:I am 30 and my boyfriend is in his mid fourties. At my age I obviously have a bigger sex drive than he does. I want sex pretty much all the time right now. I will also add that I have noticed an increase in my sex drive over the past year. I am the type of woman who would turn the stove off while I was cooking if he initiated anything sexually and lay down on the floor right there, then just get back to my stove once we both completed the deed. I am a pretty spontanious person. I don't like to "have sex on a schedule." I am usually the one who initates the sex most of the time. I have noticed that we have our most sex on the weekends. I am not saying I want it every day cause I think taking a few days off makes the sex more passionate when the time comes. But it seems to never cross his mind at times like when I am getting out of the shower and am totally naked or in the mornings before we get up and get dressed for the day or when I say things like, "I am going to lay down." Am I being irrational about this or thinking too much about it? I mean there may come a day when I won't care much about sex and I know that it's not the most important thing when you are in a relationship... I just think that considering his age and me being at 30, he would be more turned on and would want to have sex more often. I sometimes feel like he is not attracted to me. I would appreciate any feedback because none of my girlfriends have dated a man with as much of an age gap there is between us.
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reader, Bugsy007 +, writes (25 February 2011):
Bugsy007 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you! I appreciate your comments. Especially when it's a male and a females perspective. I would never accuse him of getting it somewhere else because I know he is a Super faithful man. I also love and care about him so much and our relationship in and outside of the bedroom is great. We have a lot of fun together and it's really a comforting feeling to know that I am with someone who enjoys the companionship we share together because we all know Sex goes away when you get older. I just really needed to get some insight from others and make sure I wasn't going nuts.
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reader, firstlovelastlove  +, writes (24 February 2011):
 People are different. I am just one man, in my late 40s and my sex drive is constant (every day several hours). When I was in my 20s and 30s it wasn't. I can't explain why it's like that it just is. It is very very good you are not accusing him of 'getting it somewhere else'. I wish you all the best.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 February 2011):
 Ok no you are not being irrational at all. But the age gap does make a big different. He is at the middle age mark now and his sex drive has probably slowed down. I wouldnt take this personal at all and am sure it has nothing to do with you. Its just that we are all different and we all have different sex drives. I bet he doesnt even know you feel like this. If it is really getting you down you need to talk to him about it. Dont accuse him of anything just tell him how you feel openly and honestly. Explain to him that you do not expect sex everyday but that sometimes you feel like he doesnt want to be physical and that it is you that is doing all of the work. Once he is aware that you feel like this he may hopefully try and show you that he does find you attractive. Just to add when someone is in there forties having sex every weekend seems to be quite normal.
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