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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I feel very selfish saying this!!!I love my partner so so so much! We have a 4 year old daughter together and just recently moved away from all our family and friends due to work commitments. Trouble is he is working away ALL the time. When he phones he's tired cause its 14 hour shifts but sometimes he phones with nothing to say but i'll try and make decent conversation.You'd think when he got home he'd be happy but all he goes on about is 'we'll need to buy this' or 'can we afford this'. He has always been a stresser when it comes to money. Infact, the last time we had sex, rather than cuddle up he asked how much the electric bill was!!! WTF!!When he does she me affection its a quick grope of my chest when he walks past or 1 minute of sex and he's shattered!! He treats me like his mate sometimes and it really pisses me off. I guess i can be like one of the lads but come on....I know i need to talk to him about showing me more affection and try spending some 'us' time but i dont know how to come about it. He cant look at me if i start to speak about problems we have, he waits till we're in bed and almost sleeping! Dont know if its cause he cant see my face or maybe cause i cant see his! Oh i dont know! I'm getting really annoyed with it now! yes i know he's slaving his guts away in a very dangerous job to provide for us but I just want him to show me he loves me and appreciates me without throwing money my way!Is this even making sense! I love him so much but i think i'm maybe starting to resent him. I just want to tell him he needs to start showing me some love and affection and stop making me out to be his bloody financial advisor!Sorry guys, i'm rambling now, i'm no good at this talking..... someone help me please x x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 June 2010):
Take everything you've just said here and tell him. Tell him exactly how you feel. You've clearly got a lot of frustration inside you, and it needs to come out. So sit him down, and just tell him straight how you feel. Don't hide it, don't soften it. Just tell him. And if that doesn't make him change or kick him into gear, then nothing will.
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