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writes:hey all, heres the thing my partner and i are both in our early 20's we get on really great together and all that its just he went away a little while ago to work with his family and wont be back for a few months... normaly he contacts me at least once a day eaither by phoneing me, texting me or emails. but the last week and a bit he hasnt really made any effort... he called once after 2 days with no contact saying he had no credit well thats fine but no emails or even a message on facebook to say "hey run out of credit"? i need some advice am i getting paranoid over nothing or does it sound like theres something else going on here? im not usually bothered by the lack of contact but he's like 300 miles away at the moment and i have my suspisions even though he has always been faithful to me.please any advice would be great as im loosing my mind here, cheers x
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reader, a_maldita  +, writes (24 June 2011):
 same thing is happening to me now. before my bf use to text me almost every free time he got from work and before he sleeps at night he make sure to call me. well that was few yrs ago but now he only calls three times a week or text me less that 10 messages in one week. At first I got really worried and thinking someone is keeping him busy since he is also miles away from me because of his job. I really had hard time adjusting to the situation and I always argue with him every time he calls or text me... he said explains to me that he is very busy and that guys don't usually like reporting to gf's what they have been doing all day. I can't get it because before he got time but now he can't find time for us... As time pass and the situation is still the same I got use to it somehow. If he doesn't text or call me I don't mind much and neither would I be the one to make the first move.. Sometimes you need to show them that you could careless about it so they will be the one to make the first move if they want it to work! good luck and hope this will also work for you...
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reader, spinnaker  +, writes (24 June 2011):
 The break in the routine is the source of your anxiety I would bet.
Are there any circumstances you can think of that would cause him not to contact you? What nature of work is he doing with his family? Could it be possible that he does not have reliable access to internet or phone signal?
If he has never given you a reason to suspect his loyalty it is important to explore all other possibilities.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2011): Well during the summer somtimes my boyfried doesit talk as much it worries me too but u have to like call him alllllll the time expectilly when its like night time around whn u guys would normelly go to bed I did tht never got a response so i would call his brother because he lived with home at the time so I would ask what he was doing............if I were u I would call a business partner to like give u like a daily update on him....u could call and pretend to be some girl who works at a strip club and ask for his number and say some of his friends said u were instersted and u could find out a lot...hope that helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2011): It's always disconcerting when what was once constant contact begins to wane. I'd say it's fair to ask him if there is a reason he isn't putting out as much effort as he once was and if this is the new "standard" of communication. If what he's willing to provide has changed, it's only fair that he articulate that so that you can choose if it's enough for you. If it's not, it's okay to find someone who is more consistent.
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