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writes:OK theres this guy I know. I've noticed he's quite flirty-which doesn't bother me in fact he says he flirts with everyone. Now he SAYS he's just playing yet he winks and looks at me longingly.He's also offered his place for me to 'escape' if I need to(having other relationship problems)-even at 2am! yes,I thought that was weird and no he's not a creep-he's actually quite hot!any ideas? thoughts?thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): Hi there he sounds like a good friend to have, if he can give you a roof over your head in a crisis. Why not offer him the same if you can. As for the wink, who knows? but its one hell of a fishing hook!Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008):
So a normal or ugly guy who say/does something inapropriate is a "creep," but a guy doing the same thing who is "HOT" is not a creep?
With this attitude & judgement about guys, you'd better be prepared to be taken advantage of by a lot of creeps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): I would have to side with Irish and Collaroy. I was in that same place once but without the benefit of the uncles' and aunts' insights so i fell, hard. and i paid dearly. People like him prey on vulnerable women. So if you have ANYTHING in mind beyond a couple of sexual encounters you will be miserably disappointed. Just run while you can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): Yes,I like him-a lot. He seems like a decent guy but you're probably right about him wanting to get me into bed.oh and I forgot to mention he's recently divorced with 3 small children(I have 4). he's also my neighbor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008): Sweety, the man has only his own interests in mind. He's well known player in your neck of the woods and he sexually intrigues you. He's paying you some attention that you inwardly crave. Likely due to your own feelings of emptiness and neediness, you are a good candidate for what he wants. Please look after yourself here. If all you want is a great time in the sack with no further committment, then he can definitely accomodate you. If you are looking for another man to 'save you' from your relationship problems, and you want to rebound into another relationship to feel good about yourself again, then he's likely not the right guy. Work on yourself, in rebuilding the self-love needed to work on your own problems, to become a stronger woman, who uses her smarts and instincts with people who act this way. So just be forewarned, hun. You have information about this guy and the answer is right before your eyes, just don't be one of those emotionally weakened gals who can't accept accept what they see. You might regret it later. However, if you want just a short term jump in the sack, who are we to say to you...not to do this. You are an adult woman--you can do anything you like. Just don't have any big, huge expectations here. Good luck and take of number one...you!
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (17 March 2008):
 Hi,
well he's coming on to you without actually making much of an effort. He probably doesnt need to, so I guess if you are also after some fun then that's what he is offering so enjoy yourself.
Anything else, relationship, commitment etc forget about it - this is sex pure and simple.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008): I'd guess that you're quite hot too, otherwise this guy wouldn't be saying the things he does. I'd also guess that he fancies you but is really carefully putting his toe into the water to test the temperature without burning it.
What can I say? If you fancy him and want some excitement go and knock on his door at midnight and tell him you need his bed for the night. Or you could phone him first just to make sure there's no-one else sharing his pad for the night.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2008): sounds like a bit of a tease, maybe he is maybe not however you must trust your best judge ment and remember that even thou he's hot, he could hurt you or take advantage of you. lots of guys tease when they flirt or like someone- however it is a bit dodgy that he calls you or whatever at 2am, it's not very considerate or decent just be careful. i would personally test him, play a bit hard to get show him that you have dignity. also if you get eventually get together with him, remember make him wait a while before you have sex-this is the ultimate way to se whether hes a player and after you for one thing, a few weeks, month later if hes still hanging around i would trust him. listen to your head and trust your judgement x
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reader, Skeez  +, writes (17 March 2008):
 MMMM im usually quite wary about guys who are a general flirt, becuase you can never tell if they are serious or not about someone.
Its nice that he has offered his place to you, but remember, becuase he is a flirt and he likes the girls, he may be trying to lure you to his place and just have you for sex. If your having relationship problems, then he may feel that you are an easy target becuase you need comfort and are stressed or sad right now. Just becuase hes hot, doesnt mean you should take up his offer to go to his place. Why not ask him to go out to a cafe or a restarant, or just hang out with him in town. Get to know him first.
I dont think it would be healthy getting into a relationship with him or dating yet until you know if he really is into you or not, becuase if you start dating and hes just 'not that into you' you could get hurt by him flirting with other girls.
Get to know him first before you take his offer up about going to his place.
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reader, Cosy +, writes (17 March 2008):
creeps can be hot too! In fact its probably easier to be a hot creep than an ugly one because more peopel are willing to be creeped out.
anyway, i think he's noticed you are vulnerable and is either trying to peck at you when he can or tryng to help you.. only you know because only you know his and yours relationship?
Do you like him?
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