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writes: A mths ago I split up with my b/f of 4 mths. I had known him for 14mth before we got together. At first we hated 1 another, and even though his mam knew this she still threw us together. Then she kept dropping hints that he hated girls and would never have a relationship. One time he was having problems with his computer so I went round to his, as a friend to go and help him out. While there, there were a few moments when I thought he may like me. A few days after this he told me he was in love with me, and had been for about 6mth and being flattered about this, since no1 had said it to me, I agreed to go out with him.But a few mth down the line everything began to irritate me about him. He tried to make me leave my job, but every time he mentioned it, I realised he was trying to control me. It made it worse when I couldn’t bear to kiss him. I realised I didn’t love him how he loved me. So I ended it, but not in a nice way.A few week later he got back into the dating game and joined a dating agency. I didn’t mind this at all. He asked my opinion about the girls he was meeting and although we had remained friends I did wonder if he just did it to make me jealous. So 1 night I told him I had met a guy, just to see how he would react and he began to ignore me.Nowadays I still see him, and he has a new g/f and I am genuinely pleased for him after the way I behaved, and I also have got into a new relationship. This time I have not told him or his mam anything about my private life. However his mam keeps telling me all about his g/f and although I told her once I was not interested in his life, I expect she thought I was jealous and persisted.Sometimes I want to tell her to shut up, but any way I act she is always going to think I am jealous.So what can I do. My b/f is getting annoyed at how I always complain about my exs mams behaviour.What can I do to stop his mam telling me about my ex new girlfriend without her thinking I am jealous?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2006): As the writer of this question, i would like to say that both of your suggestions from DEBS83 and pica, were very helpful. Unfortunately i am in a job where cutting his mam off is unavoidable, i work with her, but today i asked her why she felt the need to tell me, and while she never gave me a straight answer, she agreed not to say anything else. I couldnt have done this if both of you hadnt given me such great advice. Thanks x
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reader, pica +, writes (5 November 2006):
Probably nothing if she's intent on it. You can only change your own behaviour. Sounds somehow like you can't totally avoid her, but try to keep contact to a minimum. I think you're doing the right thing not telling about your own life. Be polite, pleasant, but distant. Maybe she'll get bored with it. Don't complain to other people about her - you're just winding yourself up and making it worse. If you keeping talking about her to others you're keeping the whole thing going. I know this sounds hard, but some people are just sent to annoy us so we have to deal with it as best we can ;))
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reader, DEBS83  +, writes (5 November 2006):
 tell her you have both moved on and that you dont wish to know about is life and what he is doing also if you can have a word with your ex to speak to is mum about this but you shoul think about not speaking to any of um i was very close to my exs mum but cut off from her due to the same as wat ure going through with his mum good luck
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