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*ulliet
writes:My boyfriend always invites his best friend and his best friend's girlfriend over to our place, and I don't know how to tell my boyfriend that I'm uncomfortable around his friend's girlfriend. He told me a long time ago she made a pass at him and he turned her down; however he likes to be around her. I am not sure if I should be feeling this way, but it really bothers me when she's here they are constantly looking at each other. I don't know if I am over reacting, or is this normal between friends?
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reader, Julliet +, writes (7 April 2011):
Julliet is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you so much for your advice. I did the opposite and he got really mad. I invited our neighbor that has a crush on me and instead of telling me his true feelings he let it in and let it fester. Finally, the guy left and he exploded accusing me of sleeping with the guy. lol...I had to laugh and then I said be considerate of my feelings, and I will do the same for you. The difference was I told him before he invited this girl how I felt. It all worked out in the end. He's going to be considerate to my feelings and I will to his....thx once again...now I know that I'm not the only one with such feelings...:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2011): I think you may be feeling sensitive as you know she has made a pass at him. You may be feeling that as a guy he has enjoyed the attention she gave him. I would talk it through with him and subconsciously distance yourself from her if you don't feel comfortable around her. In time you can orchestrate this, we women know how to do this, it can be done in a very subtle way and he will never realise what you are doing. I have done this with my husband and our neighbours. The wife was a flirt and my husband never flirted back as he respects me too much and she is married but I could tell he was flattered by her attention.Over time I made small excuses not to mix with them and over the last couple of years we have see them less and less. It really works but you need to be subtle and not take every opportunity to meet up with them.
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