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writes:So i smoked weed and now my boyfriends mad at me.im 19 years old .and i said i would never do it but one day i tryed it and hated it.ill never do it agian..he didnt want me to smoke because he use to and i understand that but i was pressured into it and i feel stupid for doing it.so tonight for some dumb reason i told him the mistake i made and he flipped out and hung up on me. i wanted to be honest .what should i do?? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 September 2010):
I've never touched drugs, never will. So I'm the one who didn't experiment. I'm also the one who doesn't have any side effects you can get from this such as paranoia, loss of memory, addiction and so on. You made a mistake, you can't expect everyone to be kind about it, or to back you up. I'm glad you won't do it again. Now take the mean answers to your boyfriend and tell him you've seriously learnt your lesson.
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reader, Shygirl101 +, writes (3 September 2010):
Shygirl101 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhat the hell what teenager hasnt experimented with different things once in their life.but i am acting like the victim and im not always in the right even though i wanna be. these answers were kind of mean but i understand exactly where hes coming from now.and to clear things up i dont like to use drugs i made the choice to to it one time in my 19 years of life and wont do it agian...thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2010): You might have felt pressure but you could have resisted. You can't blame anyone else but yourself for this. Don't play the victim here.
You will have to wait and see if your bf comes round. I wouldn't want anything to do with someone who told me they wouldn't smoke cannabis but then did exactly that. There's nothing you can do now, your actions have spoken for themselves. It's up to your bf what he does now.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 September 2010):
You've got to take responsibility for your own actions. Being pressured isn't a good excuse when it comes to something like this. While in comparison to other drugs,weed isn't as bad, you have to remember that your boyfriend used to do it and has stopped it. If he gave it up because he knows how bad it is, or because he was becoming addicted, then I can't blame him for not wanting to go out with you.
You can't use 'but I was pressured'. That's not good enough. You chose to do it. If you want him to even consider giving you a chance, then go back to him and say you chose to do it once, it was a mistake and it never will happen again. but to be honest, if he's had trouble with drug use himself and has gotten over it, the last thing he will want is someone in his life who could drag him back into it.
You may well just have to accept you've lost him.
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