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writes:I am 45 just divorced. My husband has got very ill temper. He used to take me to a meal or buy my gifts or holidays to apologize. It's not working anymore as I cant bear it anymore so I've divorced him. Then I met this man 18 years older than me. He seldom loses temper that attracts me. Life is very different with him. He's loaded but he always count value for money. He said material is not important to him. He want to be happy and content. He doesnt like to eat out. He always looks for bargain when he buys. The problem is he wont help a friend if they are in need of money. I find that he has got NO HEART. Money is above everything in his life. We've been together for 6 months now. I am thinking to leave. Am I right? Please advise.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (21 November 2007):
 How much of your money do you offer to spend?
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reader, Ask_HanBan +, writes (21 November 2007):
 money isnt everyhting, maybe he likes spending cosey nights in
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2007): Some people do save and live on budgets. Some come from poverty as children and know the importance of saving a buck. Some people work for many years and darned hard for their money. So they tend to believe in budgeting and living frugally. And really, do you honestly know 'everything' that this man is paying for or what his financial obligations are? And even if you did know..it's HIS money. He does what he wants with it. Plain to see, your bf has a "comfort zone" in regards to his money, in this relationship and he's not sharing that aspect of his life with you, overly much. If that is important to you, and its not up to your standards, then reevaluate because it appears you like a man to spend money on you and share his wealth and he's not doing that. What this means is, he doesn't think like you do. It means you both are very incompatible, in this aspect. Now you have to decide if 'his money' is that important to you. Really think on that. Added to all this, if you feel he should share his 'wealth' with you after 6 months of dating...then think again...that is a very entitled, immature view of life. Outside of telling you, you are not entitled to his cash...understand you ca'nt make him be what you want..so I suggest you move on, dear.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (21 November 2007):
 Well i know a few people like this and it isnt that bad.Just because people are rich doesnt mean they like to spend as much as they earn.Im cheap, yheres nothing wrong with looking for a deal no matter if your got a million and wanna spend a fiver.and you say he wants to be happy and content, and doesnt want material goods. What the hell is wrong with that. Having alot of stuff doesnt make you happy. OK he doesnt help a friend, it may be bad, but he may have his reasons.Fine you can leave him if you wanna but i feel from this text your selfish and only care about what you can get gifts you can get from a relationship. Spending alot doesnt mean you have a heart and from what youwrote, you dont have much of one.
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reader, Owlian +, writes (21 November 2007):
You should do what you think is best!
One hand there is staying with him and watch him become more and more tight-fisted or on the other hand you can leave him and tell him that you have had enough, I suggest that you stay with your parents or a close relative for awhile if you leave him, so that you feel safe!
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