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writes: My bf of 3 years and 4 months is telling me he wants a break and he doesn't know if he wants to get back together. We fight A LOT and he said that that's why. Is he having someone else? He lives an hour and 15 mins from me. I 've never been to his college and never met his friends in college. He lied to me about smoking for 9 months. He swore he didn't but for 9 months he was. I'm thinking that if he's capable of lying to me for so long he's prob either cheated on me, or IS cheating on me right now. He said that the reason why he lied about smoking for so long was because he didn't wanna loose me and he knew I would break up with him if he smoked. He picks up fights all the time and everytime we fight he says we're done. He calls me a cun* and a bit** and ANY name u could think of. I never call him anything. He told me he would stop smoking and he swears to me that he doesn't do it anymore, but I have the feeling that he's lying and he is a good liar and i'm afraid that he's not just lying about that but other things like cheating. I'm very upset right now cuz I just know that he's up to something. Could anyone tell me what u think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2006): Anyway, it really doesn't matter if he cheated on you or not. I wouldn't give a speckle of effort and time to someone that. No matter how long I've been with that person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2006): I'm sorry, but I have to add - why are you still with him if you know that he isn't a good guy? Calling you slut, bitch, cunt and the like as well as hitting you are pretty good signs that he's yeah... Or maybe I am guessing this isn't enough of a bell ringer for you? Possibly he needs to run over your leg a few times with his car, and possibly beat the crap out of you while raping your dog to get your attention?
I would think that instead of getting all happy and joyful every time he hits you, you would get pretty pissed off and possibly even... [sigh]
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reader, DearDolly  +, writes (6 December 2006):
 It sounds as if your boyfriend lied to you to protect you from something he thinks you don't want to hear. Lying about smoking is small compared to being unfaithful.
Sometimes arguing can be healthy, Not every relationship can be perfect.
One thing relationships need is trust.
And if you can't learn to trust your boyfriend then the relationship isn't worth having.
Good Luck.
Dolly.
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reader, Ivanna22 +, writes (4 December 2006):
Ivanna22 is verified as being by the original poster of the question well he doesn't just call me names but hits me also
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2006): i have been here done that but it was was me not my husband i pick the fights it goes back to if he listen to me or if he even care smoking is not so bad of a habit it could be drugs just sit down and really talk see if you can work it out and met some of his friends dont worry if he is cheating you will know trust me you will find out people will tell you just to see your reaction
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reader, pica +, writes (30 November 2006):
He has no right to call you these names, fighting or not. Dump him and find someone who treats you with respects and doesn't lie to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2006): What is this relationship doing to you? Does it make you feel good. I read it and can't understand why you are still with him. He call you names! He picks fights! Swears all the time!
Why put yourself through all of this misery. If he is seeing someone else then bloody good riddance. Come on you are worth better. He lives a distance away so you won't be tripping over him every time you go out the door. I would tell him to get lost and soon.
take care
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