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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for just over two years and up until about 5 months ago things were great, we had a great love life and sex life and I was happy.However, recently, we've rarely been having sex, I would say maybe once a month. I brought it up in conversation about a month ago and asked if anything was wrong and he said no he just wasn't in the mood. This hurt a bit but I tried not to take it too personally and just assume he would get those feelings back after a while.After I bring it up to him, he has sex with me quite a lot over the course of like a week but I kind of knew he was only doing it because I brought it up. Like he didn't seem to enjoy it and it only lasted 5 minutes, not really any foreplay or anything. Then he goes back to not doing it at all for the next month.The weird thing is sometimes I can tell he is turned on because he has an erection (I can either see it or feel it say if we're cuddling in bed) but it's like he purposefully doesn't act on it.I don't know what is wrong with me, whether I disgust him now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2016): I am having the same issue with my wife.My wife had only had sex with two guys before she met me and had never given or received oral before because of cultural issues.I am the exact opposite, I have had about 60 to 70 sexual partners and am very open to trying different things. I am at the age now where I will not entertain the idea of routine sex, I would rather go without, it is just not worth the effort.My view on life is that it should be fun and variety is the spice of life. Living a life of routine is just not an option for me, stagnation is the insignia of death.I have always lived my life with purpose. I have always thought from a young age, I do not want to get into my old age, sitting in a rocking chair thinking, oh I wish I had done this or that.I have travelled the world and live in a different country than my birth, I have tried all drugs except a few which I am cautious about but I still wish to chase the dragon. I have had threesomes and group sex. I have spent the night in Police cells.Now I am a middle class dude with two wonderful children and lots of positive memories that keep me going.My wife needs to evolve.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (29 April 2016):
 Is he depressed about something?
Have there been any changes in his place of work/ too much work/ is he working over-time?
Is he taking any medication?
Any problems on the personal front of late?
Does he use alcohol or drugs?
Maybe once you answer these questions, it'll be easier to provide a solution. I'm pretty sure you don't disgust him or anything, its just that something about his life is off at the moment and its probably just temporary.
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reader, Militaryman1234  +, writes (29 April 2016):
 Theres a lot of reasons us males can suddenly lose interest in sex. This is coming from my personal experience only as I am not an expert. But i would focus on details or changes in his life. I for one lost my sex drive when I started working 65 hours a week. My body was exhausted and the thought of sex just made me more tired. Try back massages or rubbing chest with Icy hot, or relaxing baths.Another reason I lost my sex drive. Before i joined the military I was out of shape and was putting on weight. I was ashamed of my self and frankly didnt want to see my self naked! (Weird, but us men can feel this way to, :P) If you noticed he has been puting on weight. I wouldnt confront him about it since that could hurt feelings. But Maybe sneak in healthy meals and start saying that you feel out of shape and ask him to help you get back in shape by working out with you. When i got back in shape i was like a energizer bunny. :D.I wouldnt put to much thought about him being disgusted with you. I would more assume it might be something personal he is going threw. Because if he didnt like your body. He wouldnt have had sex so many times in that week just to make you happy again.. Look for changes. Depression anything that might be bothering him.. I hope i helped. And again i am not an expert just been in his position before
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