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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Last week i found my live-in boyfriends stash of Transexual porn. These "girls" are not of the pretty or feminine variety. He begs for Anal sex which I tried and hated because its soooo sore and he doesn't slow down when i ask him to (pain). A few weeks ago when he started an argument about my lack of interest in anal sex i told him it made me feel like a gay. And he totally flipped out. This seemed to me like i had gone somewhere super sensitive and that freaked me out on its own.When we do have sex he always keeps the lights off and requires my finger up his hole before he is done. If its during the day or the lights are on he will only have vaginal sex doggy style - once again not having to see me or my body! He watches porn on his cell phone continuously which i don't get but i see it as his thing. And the last few weeks, when i clean the 2nd bathroom which he uses i keep finding his underwear hidden in a drawer which tells me he masturbating to stuff he is watching on his phone.There are just too many things playing on my mind, saying he is gay and its really getting between us. I can't risk talking to him as he has a very violent temper. He has always been very concerned about cheating in relationships and demands a promise of my faithfulness at least once a month (this is a joke since he was cheating on his 2nd wife with a very attractive but "horsey/ male" looking woman for several years). The last two weeks he has started making comments to me and his friends that indicate that if your not getting exactly what you want at home then you have the right to go out and get it from someone else.Am i over-reacting or should i be running like hell? PS: Sleeping with someone else and then coming home to me, what ever the circumstances is not okay with me. There is this thing out there called HIV/ AIDS, never mind the disrespect, etc that goes with it
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2010): If hes got a violent temper i would say leave him anyway. Hes obviously got sexual issues and his sex life is not something you are comfortable with. Leave before he starts looking further afield for the type of sex he craves and risks your health. All the best.
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reader, ShadowGoddess231  +, writes (15 January 2010):
 Sounds like he is gay and not wanting or willing to come out of the closet. If he is a violent person and you don't want to get hurt or anything run! Find someone new. He is already hurting you sexually and emotionally and he can and may will go physical with you. By what you said about him wanting it up the ass and he didn't care to slow it down cuz it hurt you, it sound to me he is already getting to the physical hurts with you. I would tell him to move somewhere else and brake up with him he is not worth your tears. He is a sick man. I'm so sorry that he is doing this to you. I have a strong feeling he has you as his girlfriend to say that he is not gay, but he is lieing to you to himself and everyone one around him. With all that in mind, have him go to get help and brake up with him. Get a better man one that will love to see your body and have sex in the light or candle light or whatever.
Good luck to you you'll need it.
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