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*erenityjohnson
writes:My ex boyfriend and I have long ago broke up (like a month and a half ago)..well he now has a girlfriend and he says he's in love with her...but he has call and texted me for sex while they've been together...and now he has been texting me for the last week or so, but i never text back..and now he says i must not want to be his friend..etc...but i just don't feel comfortable talking to him..my question is..that if he is in love with his girlfriend and doesn't like me anymore..why does he continue to stay connected with me when he knows i don't have any concerns for him???
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reader, serenityjohnson +, writes (17 January 2008):
serenityjohnson is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTHANK YOU ALL FOR YOU ANSWERS..THE SITUATION IS NOW OKAY:)
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (15 January 2008):
 Hi serenityjohnson,
How can I put it?... Tell him to get lost! He's an idiot. How would you feel if he were your bf and sleeping around with an EX behind your back? What does this say about him? How can he truly love his gf when messing around like this? I don't think the guy knows what love is.
Love is a lot of things and one of them is respect. He doesn't respect his gf and he certainly doesn't respect you.
"he now has a girlfriend and he says he's in love with her...but he has call and texted me for sex while they've been together...and now he has been texting me for the last week or so, but i never text back..and now he says i must not want to be his friend"
Since when do friends text each other for sex? You're doing the right thing. Ignore him and if he continues, tell him YOU HAVE NO FEELINGS FOR HIM ANYMORE AND IT'S OVER (of course if that is really the case).
"my question is..that if he is in love with his girlfriend and doesn't like me anymore..why does he continue to stay connected with me when he knows i don't have any concerns for him???"
Are you really not concerned? Then tell him to stop the inappropriate texts, tell him you don't want to receive stuff like that and you're not interested in that way. If it continues tell him you'll tell his gf or simply break ALL contact and perhaps even change your number (depending on how far it goes).
Best of luck and let us know how you get on :)
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (15 January 2008):
It seems and i hope you've moved on but doesn't seem like the case with your ex.Put him in his place.Either you enjoy his persuing you or you are weird.Tell him to stop and threaten to eexpose him to his gf.Tell him what limits you can tolerate and ask him to grow up.Unless you also want to sleep with him and maybe get back with him,heh?
Take care.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (15 January 2008):
 He is masochistic and narcissistic and want to humiliate, torment and degrade you. Just ignore him and he will get tired of it. Do not reply him.
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