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writes: My boyfriend is in a band and are on tour now i managed to go to the first gig where a girl from another band was giving me dirty looks becuase i was talking to my boyfriend and now she is stayin at the same hotel as him for the next week, also my boyfriend sed 2nite lots of girls sed he was hot n had pics took with him n they wanted his number n stuff thn he sed he had 2 go n i just sed ok do u want me 2 fone u 2moz n he sed yes n i sed i love you n he just went bye n hung up but i heard the other girls in the background i know its expected on tour and i do trust him just dont trust them and the amounts of alcohol involved, i hate being paranoid how can i just act kool about it? I really love my boyfriend but this girl comes across as jealous and as if she would do anything for himplease help me stay calm... sorry its so longthanks xx
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reader, layla +, writes (25 August 2006):
 whats a relationship when you dont trust your partner. If he said he loves you and he tells all the other girls to go away then i think that you have nothing to worry about. I also think that every girl gets suspicious about there partner when they are out and swarmed by girls. my advice is to trust him even though its hard im sure hes made for you. gd luck xx
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reader, camille  +, writes (24 August 2006):
 My boyfriend's in a band and is SO gorgeous, not that this matters as many girls want to sleep with anyone in a band whether they're good looking or not, anyway.... I work in the music industry and know many many men who do cheat and also know a few who don't. So, the key is to treat your man as an individual and not to tar him with the same brush that the world happily stereotypes musicians with. It's disrespectful to him to assume he'll cheat given the opportunity. Ignore these girls, they'll be jealous and trying to make you feel insecure. Just be yourself and support him as he could be feeling really uncomfortable about the whole thing. I always think that there's a chance anyone can cheat but if we went around thinking they will all the time, there's no point! So, unless it happens, enjoy your relationship and try to keep a check on your paranoia, it won't be necessarily easy, but he's with you.....
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (24 August 2006):
 OK, I was in a band myself years ago, I was the guitarist, so I can see this from his side.
I was 100% loyal to my girlfriend at the time, even though I had many chances with female fans. These girls get off on the fact that maybe the centre of attention will have some kind of attraction to them.
He appears to enjoy all the attention he gets and does not pull any punches in telling you. I see him as being a selfish arrogant guy and I think you can do better.
My girlfriend at the time was paranoid that I would cheat, I found the attention from others flattering, but temptation was never an issue. My girlfriends paranoia eventually led her to cheat on me, she was sure I was cheating, so she thought she would get revenge.
I ended it when I found out.
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reader, Helen1986 +, writes (24 August 2006):
 Awh bless you, you seem like such a lovely girl. Paranoia is a killer in most relationships hunny, so be careful. Do you really love your boyfriend as much as you say you do? If he is in a band he is going to have girls dropping at his feet all the time and will also be away from you a lot. Faithful or not, it is going to be a difficult relationship all the way through. You are going to be constantly paranoid and fighting for his attention. I think you need to have a long hard think about whether he is really worth it. I think that you are a nice girl and deserve better but at the end of the day the decision is for you to make. good luck
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