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He's gone back to his country. I am pregnant. Should I tell off my abusive ex or stay a lady ?

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Question - (23 March 2011) 4 Answers - (Newest, 23 March 2011)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hi I am a 27 year old female. My abusive boyfriend has just ended our relationship.

I don't know why he left me I guess I blame myself because I was jealous, but he lied about the computer and talking to other women on porn sites. He hurt me, then went back to his country.

I am pregnant and told his family via email they basically said that that it was up to him if he wanted to talk to me agian and not their business. A baby not there family business ! anyways I responded nicely saying that I would leave him alone, like they asked, and that I wished him well.

Well now I mad and feel like telling him off but I would have to email his sister to do this. I have no way to comunicate with him. Do you think I should? Or do you think that would make me look crazy and I am sure he told them because I do have some health issues.

So should I remain a lady? I'm just so mad! What should I do let it be or tell them off ? help please

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011):

...if he was truly abusive, he shouldn't be anywhere around you or the baby. He shouldn't get any closer than sending the financial support he's responsible for.

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A female reader, amazingk United States +, writes (23 March 2011):

amazingk agony aunt"Telling him off" isn't going to accomplish anything, at least nothing that'd be helpful now that you're pregnant. It seems you're on your own with this one, unless your family's there to support you since obviously he and his family could care less. I'd say the only decision you have to weigh is whether you feel you can handle raising a baby entirely on your own. I'm sure you'll make whatever decision that's in your best interest. I wish you well.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011):

It's fairly obvious that you wouldn't want to be involved with any of those people. Your life is your child, now, so it'd probably be best to prepare for its arrival and being a great Mom. If that's the path you choose, that is.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (23 March 2011):

It comes down to this:

Do you really think a man who was abusive, and has a family that doesn't care about your baby, will give a damn if you send an email? I think not. It wouldn't do a thing.

Worse, what if he uses that email against you and tries to get the baby or something? It's been known to happen.

Stay a lady, work hard and give your child everything that this poor excuse of a father and family can't.

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