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writes:Alright, I'm in a really weird situation here. It's a long story so I guess I'll just start from the top.I've been friends with this girl S for a few months now. We've mostly talked about music and other random stuff. Then she got a boyfriend, which I didn't care about because I had no feelings for her at that point. Fast forward a few months, she breaks up with him, and I try and convince her to get back with him. She does, and things go well until he leaves her a bit later. Then, she starts talking to me about deep stuff, even going as far to tell me about her personal issues and all that. Of course, I started liking her as more than a friend, so I kind of stopped with the behavior that would lead to "lets just be friends". I started teasing her and joking around more, which helped her when she was sad about the breakup. She's mentioned how much I make her laugh and all that. About a month later, out of nowhere, she gets back with her ex-bf :/ I really thought she liked me, she always remembered the inside jokes we had and even sketched me a painting of one of our jokes. Not something you would do for just a friend right? I don't know why, I feel like she does like me. Maybe I'm wrong, but she keeps talking and joking with me and It's just confusing :/ I've hinted several times I thought she was cute, she has to know I'm interested...Here's my issue. I don't know what to do. I feel like the best thing to do would be to just forget her and move on, but she'll just keep reinitiating contact. So, I'd appreciate some opinions on what I should do here. Do I keep joking with her and making her laugh (Hurting myself by staying in contact with her)? Do I wait for them to break up again? No idea :/ Also, I'm really close with one of S's best friends K, should I tell K how I feel about S? Maybe she knows how S feels? Or at least she could tell me I have no chance, which would let me move on.Thanks in advance guys.
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reader, karmabum +, writes (23 March 2011):
Your post says you're a guy. So act like one. Don't pussyfoot around and go through a friend. That's what middle-school girls do.1: You TOLD HER to go back to her ex. Oops.2: You provided a completely platonic, fun way for her to pass the time while she nursed her breakup wounds. Oops.If you shared one of those eye-to-eye moments when you were being her private jester, that would have been a good time to make your move. Now, she's back with the ex, and you don't want to be stuck in the middle of that.Move on. Forget about it. Tell her you're busy dating wonderful women, and don't have time to listen to her yowling about her boyfriend. Later on, if you're single, and she's single, if you still care, try it again.
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reader, sebaslookingforward  +, writes (23 March 2011):
Maybe she did want something with you but it would have been a rebound, and in the end she went back with her ex. If it does not bother you to see him with her and you believe you can handle it, remain friends. But don't let her stop you from dating other people and liking other girls. She is not the only one out there. I would not tell K about how you feel about S to end this confusion sooner.
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