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writes: my bf of 2yrs is joining the army im only 18 and am struggling to deal with it. i love him soo much but dont want to any more. i dont think im mature enough to deal with a relationship like this. do you think i shuld try it and see how it works or end it now. Reply to this Question
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reader, Sis6372 +, writes (4 May 2006):
I have been there, My boyfriend of 3 years went into the Navy, right when we were so in love. We lasted 3 more beautiful years. I too felt like you do, am I mature enough, am I strong enough. Then I realized I couldn't live without him. I am so glad that I gave us a chance instead of giving up. It was the hardest thing I have done in my life, to watch him leave and only see hima couple times a year, but it was worth every minute of it. My advise is to stick it out, it will be hard, you'll shed lots of tears, but you'll be happy you did, it will make your relationship stronger, and a stronger person out of you. Good Luck!!! And here's a hug cause you'll need it. Always Smile!!!!
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reader, Singlerock +, writes (3 May 2006):
Well make sure that you will be happy in the end, because my boyfriend left for 6months and i was so upset no knowing if things will be the same when he gets back or will he be a totally different person.Because people changed in the army, so i left him for another guy who is better than him. But in the end i regret it so much because i lost the person that i love the most. It is the mistake that i don't want you to have. Because you can never replace love with another person
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2006): army relationships are hard there is no denying it but if you love him like you say you do then you owe it to your self to give it a try coz otherwise you will always be finking what if. hope i help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2006): give it a go!
dont give up on him yet, stick it out for a while at least. it is lonely enough in the army let alone not having a girlfriend to help him through!
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reader, Danielle934 +, writes (1 May 2006):
 You should really do what you think is best. You stated that you think you are not mature enough to deal with this... you are 18, you are legally an adult. Adults have to face things every day that they don't want to; it's a part of life. If you want to end it because you don't feel like you could handle it then you are running away from your problems. You can’t be a child forever; sooner or later you will have to face even bigger problems then this. If you love this guy then why end it, what were the past two years for?I know how you feel though; I was 20 when my boyfriend left for the Air Force. It is a hard thing to deal with, especially not having any real contact with each other for almost two months. But the saying that "happiness makes the heart grow fonder" is very true! My boyfriend and I ended up getting married two months after he got out of boot camp because over the time we had apart we realized just how much we mean to one another. I am not saying that this will happen for you, but if you really love each other and are meant to be, then things will find a way of working themselves out. Taking chances is a part of being in love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2006): If you love him then surely its worth giving it a go, i mean, whats the worst that can happen, if it doesnt work out, then you end it, but there is nothing to loose in giving it a go, and perhaps alot to gain
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