A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I am currently separated and have been for almost a year. My husband left me last March saying he wasn't in love with me anymore and needed space. The past year has been painful but i've manage to be strong for the sake of our 5 year old daughter we have together. I've gone back to school and been determine to pick up the pieces and move on. I never asked for him back cause i don't want anyone that does not want me. Recently, my ex have been really kind and sweet to me. Our bills/lives are still intertwine because of our child. but we live separatly. Last night, he surprised me by telling me that he got me a new car for my birthday. I was shocked. Then I gave him a hug to thank him, and he then squeezed my butt and wanted sex. My question is. Does he want me back? He doesn't have a girlfriend, and i don't have anyone. I am confused at his mixed signals. I will always love him cause we've been together 13 years. But he hurt me bad and broke my heart. What is he thinking?
View related questions:
move on, my ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2009): He doesn't have it sorted out yet.
Maybe he will want you back, but he's not sure about it yet. Maybe he's just lonely/bored/horny.
Don't give him sex.
Keep moving on with your life. I'd take the car, b/c hey, who doesn't want a car, but I'd also take it with a grain of salt.
Don't get back w/ him until he's reached a point of emotional maturity and certainty about what he wants that he's prepared to just come right out and say it -- he wants you back, and he hopes you'll find a way to work things out.
Anything less is not what you deserve.
A
male
reader, tux +, writes (9 March 2009):
 Booty call?
But beyond that, there can be a variety of reasons, 1) he may feel guilty for leaving you.. 2) he may want you back.. 3) He just wants a booty call..
Plenty of good explanations are out there, just a matter of finding which one, in which you need to talk to him and ask him.
...............................
A
female
reader, asian tealeaf  +, writes (9 March 2009):
 very hard to say. perhaps he may still care for u, and as we know, for men, at least most, sex can be 2 things, sex for what it is, and sex because its their way of bonding. if u still have feelings for him, maybe u should invite him either to your place, or out to a coffee bar and talk about where u both are at at this junction in ur lives, as individuals, and former partners. and see what comes from it.
...............................
|
