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writes:im 17 n my boyfriend really wants to have a baby he says he wil be there for me and everything so we started having unprotected sex and ive missed my period and have been feeling sick so im reaaal scared now and dont know what to do. i told him and hes really excited but i dont feel ready for this.what do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2010): hey thanks everyone for your advice , i took a test and i am pregnant , i havent quite decided what im goin do yet but thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2010): Exactly, you are not ready for this... you said it yourself. And WHY does he want to have a baby so fast?!?!? He is really loves and cares he'll wait till you can both support a child, I mean you guys can't even support yourselves. You are smarter than that, get on birth control and take care of your own body.
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reader, angeleyes23 +, writes (27 July 2010):
well you shouldnt of really been having unprotected sex but its done now.you need to have a pregnancy test ASAP!if you are pregnant go to a planned paernthood center there they will tell you about your options,if you want to keep your baby, theyll answer all of your pregnancy questions and talk to you about the kind of care youll need and im guessing you havent told your parents so theyll even talk to you about the best way to broach the subject with your parents.
good luck with everything :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2010): Take a pregnancy test RIGHT NOW (get it at the drug store), and if it comes back negative then start using condoms again and tell your boyfriend that you don't want to have a baby. If he argues then break up with him....REALLY.
If the test comes back positive, then go immediately to a doctor or Planned Parenthood, and they will tell you what your options are. Don't have/keep the baby if you're not ready. You can get an abortion or you can put the baby up for adoption. But do NOT become a parent if you're not ready!!!!! If your boyfriend insists then he is not being reasonable, and you should break up with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2010): If you're not excited what u need to do is take a test, if it is positive, sit downand think what YOU want to do. If you want to get rid of the baby, you musttell ur parents and go to the doctor straight away and talk through abortions. If you want to keep it, still tell your parents.
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reader, Over..worried.  +, writes (27 July 2010):
 First take a pregnancy test.
If you are pregnant tell him straight out that you are not ready.
He should understand this. If he doesn't obviously it's not a good idea to have a baby anyways. If you are not ready your best bet is to terminate the pregnancy.
I wish You Alot Of Luck.
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reader, cocoqueen88  +, writes (27 July 2010):
 oh no girl. there is no way that you're ready to be a mom. first of all you're way too young and plus you said it yourself. you haven't really learned anything about life yet. and once you have a child you CAN NOT give it back.
and just FYI most of those young guys say " yeah baby i'll be there forever" but look at all these single really young moms out here struggling with these children. HE isn't the one who has too walk around with this kid YOU are!! these kids having kids is a real problem. don't give into the pressure.
tell him that if he's really gonna be there to marry you once you guys are done with school gotten a career and have lived life a bit more. please don't rush having kids because they are real expensive and hard work.
but if you are pregnant you need to get ready and fast! children don't care how old you are they'll need you!!
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reader, Lotsalove. +, writes (27 July 2010):
 You have just answered your own question sweet. 'You're not ready for this'. So why the hell are you doing it? To please your boyfriend? As the saying goes 'Sex wont make him love you and a baby wont make him stay'.
You are 17, and im guessing your boyfriend is roughly the same age maybe a bit older? Does your boyfriend know what a baby consists of? Time, Money, Sleepless nights, Constant Crying, 18 years worth of being dependant on you both, even longer! Where are you going to live with this baby? Do either of you work? Whose going to pay for the baby?
First of all you need to take a pregnancy test and find out if you are. If its positive, and if you really feel you're not ready, (which by your question, your not) dont be scared to hurt your boyfriends feelings and get it aborted. If he loves you that much he'll understand!
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reader, almc +, writes (27 July 2010):
Shouldn't be trying to have a baby at 17
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