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writes:Ok, so I've been in a relationship with this guy for about 4 months now. Before a few days ago, our time together has been amazing, every date is perfect and we have so much fun. We see eachother twice a week, he's a total gentlemen, he plans our dates, and we haven't had sex because were waiting for a while. Last night, he told me he's thought about taking a break with me and how he's afraid of committment and relationships. He also said he was confused about us. Why is this coming up all of a sudden? After he said this, we were talking and he told me he doesn't want to lose me and wants to be in a relationship. He says he loves how much fun we have together and feels we have a strong connection. He said he's been stressed and confused about his life and our relationship lately. I am so confused! Is he into me anymore, or is this his way of breaking up with me? I'm falling for this guy and would hate to lose him.
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reader, VikkiDec1 +, writes (23 August 2010):
VikkiDec1 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you guys for your answers!
To Pazush: We've met eachothers parents. We do not know eachothers friends yet. We haven't had sex because we want to take it slow. We talk for hours and hours without getting bored. And were both 20 yrs old.
I really, honestly feel like we could be together for a long time, I just hope he feels the same way. It doesn't seem like he's a player because he wants to take things slow and never forces anything. He's told me many times he wants to be in a relationship and likes me alot. It just makes me so confused when he says he's thought about taking a break and he's scared.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2010): Just hang in there. He might be a player in disguise if he doesn't want a comittment. But he also sounds like ronnie from jersey shore! Ha
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reader, Pazush  +, writes (20 August 2010):
 Hi,
there might be several causes for his behavior.
did he meet your parents? did you meet yours?
do you know his friends? does he know yours?
if so, do you have common friends you can consult?
is there a possibility he wants to get physical and youre blocking him?
did you talk more than simple flattering conversations?
is he in the same age as you are?
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reader, Jay25  +, writes (20 August 2010):
 I think it is fair enough for him to have commitment issues but he does have to be fair to you, bith being honest with eachother is probably the best way to go maybe he just wants to keep it casual or maybe he likes you so much it is actually freaking him out and making him want to back off, if he tells you exactly what he needs/ wants then you can make the choice to stay or go, if you both want different things staying together is only prolonging the inevitable break up surely
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