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writes:Please help me! My boyfriend is so caring and I know he will be soo faithful, and recently we have been arguing over petty things, he has a problem with most of my friends, then when I pick faults with his friends it a different story, I feel he is clingy and such but I dont want to leave him! What do I do?! Reply to this Question
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reader, butterfly22  +, writes (17 January 2009):
 tell him to lay low on the clingyness...you do need your space once in awhile.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (17 January 2009):
 That unfortunantly happens to alot of people. A guy(some women too) sometimes wants to have his(her) way on things and gives you none of the same priveledges. Men look at things so differently than women. They don't alway rightly see that their friends have flaws just like your friends do.
You don't want to leave this guy so you can make a choice to stay but the likelyhood of your boyfriend changing is probably pretty slim. If in time things change it will probably be because YOU HAVE ADAPTED to YOUR RELATIONSHIP according to his standards and will. I do hope you think more of yourself than to believe any man(or woman)would hold you a greater value if you always let them control your every mood or reaction by what they think is right. You have to stand up for yourself and let it be known that you deserve to choose your friends in the same manner as he does. On the other hand YOU need to stop retaliating by picking on his friends because this is making you no better than he is for doing this to your friends. Even if he started it. All this will lead to is more arguments and eventually will spoil the entire relationship.
Try asking him to refrain from putting your friends down and tell him you agree to do the same. You made comment that he is caring and you feel sure he will be faithful. If you want this relationship to. Learn to treat one another with more respect and know that you are both entitled to have your own friends of one's choosing.
Whatever is going on can be fixed most likely if you only work at it together and with careful thought in not blurting out ugly or ignorant inuendos of one another's friends. PRAY THAT GOD OPENS YOUR HEART AND HIS AS WEL, AND THAT HE CAN HEAL ANY DAMAGE ALREADY DONE. LET THE LIGHT SHINE FOR YOU BOTH AND DIRECT YOU TO THE PLACE YOU NEED TO BE.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2009): Ok so I have been in the same kind of relationship you are now. Trust me it gets worse. I was my ex for a little over a year because i didn't want to leave him. I had the same feelings as you he was faithful but we argued over the littlest things. Sometimes it works out but most of the time it won't. I can tell you just to keep an eye on whats happening and even if you do care about him. If it gets worse leave him. It was the best decision I made.
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