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anonymous
writes:Hello Agony Aunts and Uncles. Well i'm having a very hard time moving on from this guy i really love, care about and wanna be with but he broke up with for a very stupid reason. This isn't the first nor the second nor the third time i've been in this situation with this same guy. We've been together for almost 3 years now and there has not been a change at all! Remind you, this is the same guy i took back after he cheated 5 times, lies to me constantly, disrespects me, ignores me, no communication, etc. But every time i took him back. So 2 weeks ago, he broke up with me because i was being concern about the both of us so i took us to the doctor without him knowing. I didn't want to tell him because i know how he will react so i just didnt tell him. So he got mad when we got there and broke up with me telling me we're done for good and he hates me and stuff. Now i'm back to my old self...crying, depressed, stressed, locked in my room, etc. I want to text him and go to his house but iknow that's what he wants me to do. I changed my number so he won't call or text me but i want to text him. But i did my part. After that happen, i went to his house several of times, trying to talk to him...he told me to leave because he didn't care or wanted to talk about it then! I'm just hurt because he has my heart and i recently had took him back after being at the fair with another female. It's hard because i don't want to see him with anyone else because i love him. I don't know what to do. Even tho he did a lot of bad things to me, i still love and want to be with him. Am i crazy? I need help! Anyone!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (2 November 2011):
 http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-took-him-to-the-clinic-because-i.html
Is this your previous question?
You had 9 people take the time to answer you and you never gave a followup? I guess you didn't like the answers, so you posted again, hoping for some magical answers?
Your guy is a cheater and you are so dependent on him that you don't have the strength to leave him. You ask if you are crazy. I think someone with healthy self-esteem would not tolerate the cheating and lying and despite your dramatic clinic visit, the problem is that you are attached to a guy who will continue to cheat on you and bring home STDs.
Get counseling for that and consider it an investment for your future. I hope that you are able to appreciate that none of the aunts here has a stake in keeping you with him or breaking you up; we're just calling them as we see them, and what we see here is not good. Please don't beg to get him back, please find out why you are addicted to being treated so badly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2011): You are getting used to his shit and its going to feel normal to you. You need to break away and stay away from him. You dont cheat on people you love.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (2 November 2011):
 You have written on about this before. Did you not like the answers you received? You need to ask yourself this. Are you a doormat? Do you think so little of yourself that you allow this guy to treat you badly and walk all over you? If he's cheated on you 5 times its obvious he doesn't truly care about you or your feelings. So why do you still love him? How can you love someone who treats you so badly?? I wouldnt say you are crazy, but apparently you don't seem to want someone who loves and respects you. This guy isn't going to change, and as long as you allow him to walk all over you, he will contin
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reader, Bluejean  +, writes (2 November 2011):
He is a horrible man and treats you this way because you let him. Maybe you should see a therapist or someone to help you with your self worth/esteem. I think you have some issues and he's just taking full advantage of them/you.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (2 November 2011):
 It seems you think that because you took him back, against better judgement, he sort of owes you to stick by you through everything, because you stick by him through all of his crap.
But that's not how it works. He doesn't value you, and no matter how much you tell him you love him, no matter how much you show him, he's not interested. You pine after him because you don't think you deserve better yourself, and he'll never respect you because you don't respect yourself.
Move on from him and this unhealthy love you have for him. Heal. Find someone BETTER for yourself.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 November 2011):
 You want him back so he can cheat on you some more? I just don't get it.
You need to realize that you can stand on your own two feet and behaving like a doormat will result in people walking ALL over you.
YOU are in charge of how others treat you.
Don't YOU think you deserve better?
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