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writes: What's the proper way to act when your one of two people seriously dating someone? In my previous relationships I've always jumped right from casual dating into a relationship and have never been one of numerous people dating 1 person. But in my latest situation there's two girls..me and the ex. Myself and "B" as we'll call him started dating RIGHT after his last relationship. And after some time he admitted he cant let go of his last relationship JUST yet, but he also has strong feelings for me. Well when I realized B was not over his ex and yet has feelings fot me, I suggested he casually date us both...and then that would clarify any confusion he had about the situation. Well all that was fine and good until I figured out that he tell me he loves me and also tells his ex this(only when the ex says it first though). B also takes both of us out on dates, talks, texts us both constantly(myself more though) etc etc. Now B tells me everything that happens with the ex when they do go out... but the ex doesn't even know im in the picture. Though the situation does hurt me sometimes..I have strong feelings for B and don't want to let it go yet, especially since most of the time it seems he's almost ready for a relationship with me. But I don't know how to not get jealous or bothered by everything that happens with the ex! So any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2007): Amen, never bull s**t a bull sh****r, tell him what you want and expect and tell him you understand if he can't give it to you right now, but you have to move on...he said he loved you and tell him you thought that would mean that he was yours and yours alone...good riddance.
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reader, DocSilverback  +, writes (9 January 2007):
 First of all, I have added the additonal letters to his name "B".....the rest is ullshit. Remember, you are gathering all the information that is happening with "B" and his girlfriend FROM "B". How convenient for him. He can basically tell you anything like, "I text you the most", or something else just as LAME. And, yes, I did say his girlfriend, because she is NOT his ex anymore. Remember, it was you who suggested that he date the both of you. You are getting scraps, but you asked for them. Why would you want to share a man anyway is beyond me. Move on is all that I can say.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (9 January 2007):
 i wouldnt of gotten involved to be honest as most of the time it causes heart ache or relationship problems...tell him how you feel about it that you dont want to push him but you dont like the fact that hes still dating her when he says he loves you.. to me if he loves you then he would only be with you ... i wouldnt except anything less..you should be jealous and bothered because he is with another woman when you want him to youreself.. you feel he is cheating on you (he is infront of youre eyes) with you saying nothing this is allowing him to feel that its ok , to me its not.. he should of made a desicion when he met you tbh..i think its time you told him to make a descion on.. thats how i feel about it im sorry if its not what you want to hear but its my view on it and i hope this helps xxxx
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