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writes:My boyfriend wants me to move and live with him (he lives 5 hours aways from me). We have had a really rocky year as he can be a very unreasonable person and is never wrong. Strangely though I do love him very much. He has had a transfer and will be working away for at least 3 years. I love living around my family and friends and am terrified of leaving them. He wants to give me the child I so long for and am worried if I dont go then I may not ever have children. (am 5 yrs off 40) I worry that as its such a big move after such a disasterous year, if Im being silly to just leave my job, family and friends to move away. Im meant to be going to see him this weekend but am worried I am causing myself more heartache by even going to see him. Would I be better off, cutting off all contact and finding someone who is happy living where I live. Im so worried as Im always in the wrong with my boyfriend, yet he loves me so much as says I will have a happy life with him. Im so confused and feel sick. Please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2009): I know - I had to repost because I wanted some more answers. I just so confused - its make or break. I think I should leave him really but its hard letting go and having to start again. I never thought I would be here again after this stage in my life. I feel life passing by and am just scared.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (7 January 2009):
It seems your main reasons for going to live with him are:
1. To have children
2. Because he says it's the right thing to do.
I honestly don't think it is a good move to go and live 5 hours away from all your friends and family, for a man who obviously makes you feel crap about yourself all the time.
This is the second posting I've seen from you about this so you are obviously having serious doubts.
Stay where you are, dump your boyfriend and find a sperm donor if you are desperate to give birth.
You should not be in a relationship where "he is never wrong."
Good Luck!! xx
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